TheRock Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 ME: 32 yr old Firefighter (FF), good looks, great shape. Girls say I look like The Rock & always want to set me up with their friends. I always get hit on and get phone #’s given to me, etc. MOST guys would love the attention, but IT REALLY SUCKS! As a result, many girls think I am a player. I AM NOT! I am probably the most faithful male on the planet! I won’t even look or take a girls # once I’ve started dating another. THE STORY: Jen and I hit it off really well. We went out once. SHE called or asked me to call her almost every day after that date. We had a lot in common, good conversations and chemistry. New Years Eve Jen called during the day all happy and told me to call her back. I did. We didn’t see each other on New Years Eve due to prior commitments, but text & phoned each other at Midnight. New Years Day (SAT) I saw a mutual friend. She said, “I hear you’re DATING Jen.” I said, “I wouldn’t say DATING yet. We only went out once, but we’d both like to go out again.” She said she’d put a good word in for me. Jen called 3 times Sunday. Things were great. Monday I called her, spoke for 20 min & I asked her to a movie during the wk. She said she’d see when she was available (understandable, as she has a 5 yr old). I said to find out and let me know. She sounded irritated by the way I said it. I didn’t mean it in a nasty way. I decided to withdraw a little and didn’t call. Figured she might be stressed or something. Wed night I decided to text her to see if she was still awake. She replied, “Actually I’m out.” I said OK tlk tomorrow. I was really busy the next few days and didn’t get to call until Sat. She returned my call but seemed cool. I called again this past Tues night, but no response. SOMETHING HAPPENED and I don’t know if she’s Pissed at me for not calling or if our friend said something, if she thought we were “Dating”, if she thinks I’m playing her, she met another guy or what, but SHE'S NOT CALLING! Things were hot then just stopped! Should I call her on Thurs and joke that she’s playing hard to get? Then say I haven’t heard from her and thought we had a lot in common and would really like to see her again. And ask if I said or did something wrong? Maybe I shouldn't have withdrawn?? Normally I wouldn’t stoop to this level and wus out. I would just move on to the next one, but out of all the girls I’ve ever dated, (and there are many) this one had something special and I don’t want to lose her. HOW DO I GET HER TO CALL ME BACK?? Should I wait a few more days\weeks to call? Absence doesn’t always make the heart grow fonder and I don’t want her to get madder. Plus I've already given her space....WHAT SHOULD I DO??? DO I CALL HER? WHAT DO I SAY???
Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Call her and ask her IF you've said or done something wrong... Tell her you really like her and enjoy her company and would like to take her out. Keep it simple, light and friendly.
Author TheRock Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Thank you. I hope it works. Never had to be rescued before. Usually it's the other way around.
Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by TheRock Thank you. I hope it works. Never had to be rescued before. Usually it's the other way around. You're welcome.. it happens.
Author TheRock Posted January 15, 2005 Author Posted January 15, 2005 So...I called Jen on Friday and got her Voicemail. I left a message saying I hadn't heard from her and was wondering what's up. If it was something I said or did, I'm sorry. I said that she's fun, we had a great time on our date and seem to have a lot in common. I'd like to take you out again and hope to hear from her. Still haven't heard back from her. I'd really like to know what happened. It's like she just vanished. She was calling a lot, we laughed a lot and then the next second, I don't hear from her anymore. VERY STRANGE@!! I'm not going to sit around waiting for her to come back, I'm moving on, but hope at some point in the future maybe we can make contact and re-start the relationship again. Any suggestions?? Thanks!
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 Hi TheRock, Forget about trying to reconnect with her. The balls in her court, just wait and see. She may have hooked up with her ex boyfriend or something. Don't assume it is you. All you can do it wait and see.
Merin Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 Originally posted by Groovy Hi TheRock, Forget about trying to reconnect with her. The balls in her court, just wait and see. She may have hooked up with her ex boyfriend or something. Don't assume it is you. All you can do it wait and see. Good Advice here.. Seriously unless something horrible happend to her and she CAN'T get back to you.. then I would just leave things alone. You've put it out there for her that you have an interest in seeing her again.. and honestly my guess is she is seeing someone new, or someone from her past.. So upward and onward.. you'll find someone else who is all about going out with you
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2005 Posted January 16, 2005 Wow Rock, you sound like me....I'm the same way in some things...I need to know WHY...Even if it may hurt my feelings, I have to know because not knowing is so much worse! You seem like a really nice guy (well ALL firefighters are nice guys! I know cuz I have afew close buddies that are ff's in Toronto) and very upfront and honest. Don't waste your time on her. Give her another week. Call one more time (I know you really want to? I would if I were you) then if she doesn't call you back, walk away. I doubt it is you, probably she has a busy life with a young child and maybe dating a ff is harder for her than she realized. I think one has to be kinda nuts to BE a firefighter...And I think ya gotta have that nut quality to date one! You know what I mean. Good luck though! Keep on posting...Check out the rest of the site and join the madness around this place! Can be quite fun when you need some good laughs! Or just to help out afew others along the way too!!
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