NHdude Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 hi all, So while I was with my gf i introduced her to two of my friends, one a girl and one my roommate, a dude. We broke up which was painful, as I was on this site alot...now i could not care less because I have realized so much. The problem is now my roommate ditches me to hang with my ex and the other girl I introduced to my ex. Its so painful to be kicked to the curb not just by your ex (even though it should have happened many moons ago), but also your friend who I thought would become a life long pal. Don't know if I'm overreacting, definitely not wanting her back...I see it as major disrespectful and I just want to know if I'm overreacting/ if I should talk to him about it. Thanks
Ronni_W Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Yes of course talk with him about it and tell him you find it hurtful and from your perspective it is disloyal. I can't say it's appropriate to feel "disrespected" by any friend's choice of other friends...they do have full authority, right to hang-out with people they find fun, intellectually stimulating, whatever. It sucks in this case, yes. It would be better, nicer, easier if he didn't enjoy their company. It is also an opportunity to expand your social circle on your own, precisely so that you do not become dependent or over-dependent on only one person...that's a burden friends don't usually sign-up for.
Author NHdude Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 hey thanks ronni. I talked to him and I guess he just wants to hangout with the other friend instead of my ex but because my ex needs attention 24/7 they're always together, and shes very attractive haha. He's pretty understanding about it all which makes me feel a lot better. Thanks
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