Haydn Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Pick has prevented me from hurting myself further. This is very serious and good advice. You can do this. Yes. For the time being, at least. You have to approach it one step at a time. For now, your only step to fulfill is not to contact her. Look at FB all you want, cry, reminisce, but do not contact her. That's all you have to do right now. Then when you're ready, you'll do the next step. 1
Haydn Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Sorry. I did not mean to hurt you further. If the slang means "a fool or someone who will do anything for you.", then it made me feel bad because she was the one who would do anything for me....She had done a lot for me....
BDL Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Her breaking up with you is the best thing to happen to you. It may not seem like it is at the moment, but trust me it is. Use this opportunity of heartbreak and pain to improve yourself... become a better person... become a better man. The pain you are feeling is the greatest learning experience, and hopefully you don't squander it. You most likely won't get her back, but once you become stronger and better, you may not want her back.
Author cnh520 Posted January 24, 2014 Author Posted January 24, 2014 Her breaking up with you is the best thing to happen to you. It may not seem like it is at the moment, but trust me it is. Use this opportunity of heartbreak and pain to improve yourself... become a better person... become a better man. The pain you are feeling is the greatest learning experience, and hopefully you don't squander it. You most likely won't get her back, but once you become stronger and better, you may not want her back. And why is that?
BC1980 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 As you all suggested, I will try my best to not contact her. Does moving on mean giving up on her and this relationship? You really do have to give up and let go. I know how hard that is because I was there myself after a 3 year relationship. I remember those horrible days, but I look back on them now and wish I had gone NC and given up hope sooner. The thing you have to realize is that she has already checked out of the relationship. She no longer wants to invest in it, so the only thing you can do is follow suit and invest in yourself. You are in denial right now. It's perfectly normal, but you must remain NC. As difficult as it may be, it will force you to accept it is over. 1
pickflicker Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 And why is that? Because the vast majority of relationships do not reconcile for the long term. 1
LostConfused123 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 (edited) I really hope you go hardcore NC sooner than later. NC, that will heal you the quickest is removing all traces if them. Block all social media as soon as possible. I have been reading posts here for the last three months and so many, I mean LOTS of posters have been hurt beyond belief by not doing this. It really scared me straight. Something I never forgot and will never forget is a poster here said . . . . If you are doing NC correctly, you won't know if they are alive" Maybe it's just me but I thought that was pretty profound. We are all here for you!! You can do it!! You will be out of pain so much faster this way. . . Months, maybe years if grief you can save yourself. Best of luck! ((hugs,)) Edited January 24, 2014 by LostConfused123 1
ithappenedagain Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Hang in there man. Like EVERYONE has been saying, your thoughts, actions, emotions, etc. are all NORMAL. EVERYONE on this forum has been in your shoes (Hell, I am only on about 6 days of Hardcore NO CONTACT myself - and she gave me the brutal news a week ago).... -Do I still want to call her - YES -Do I want to call her mom - YES -Do I want to call her best friend - YES -Do I want to email/text all of the above - YES Will I? NO! HELL NO!!!!!! Why? = SETBACK otherwise known as pouring salt into an open wound I have deleted her from facebook, Havent been asking anyone about her, and like the poster above mentioned : I have been treating as she is almost dead (as bad as that sounds) Just take some deep breaths when you get an anxiety rush. Let those tears out. Get some sleep. EAT FOOD. Read other stories on this site. Hang out with friends, and...... test out your pimping skills with the ladies!!! ok ok it might be too soon for that last piece of advice!
Jord11 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I was in the same situation as you, she broke up with me and I loved her with all my heart she told me she didn't love me anymore and left, I begged pleaded nothing worked, I finally let it go it's been a year no contact, nothing you do will change what she thinks, flowers gifts letters nothing will work only HER will make the decision step back and see what happens, it's been a year not one word from my ex It's hard it sucks but that's the way it is. Think about it everything you do to try to get her back will only push her away further, I'm sorry but nothing will work, give it time disappear heal and move on, I'm still doing that and it's been a year since I've talked to my ex, let it be 1
Armyguy123 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Bad news man. She is taking the cowards way out. My ex did the same thing. "I need time to focus on starting my new job", ignored me for 3 days then broke up with me. The 3 days of silence was torture. NC is the only thing you can do. I'll be honest though the first couple of weeks are going to be the hardest. I wish you the best. My advice show her nothing. No facebook posts, no text messages or calls, nothing..., anything you do will seem needy and clingy. I did it all man.... 1
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