avoforastig Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I have dated several woman for variable lengths of time over the past 7 months. Does anyone have have a litmus test or strategy to determine if I am being excessively picky or just haven't found the right person? Certainly, everyone has their shortcomings or things that are less than ideal about them that need to be accepted, but usually they also need to be exceeded with other great qualities. When I evaluate my dates, I do tend to put the majority of the weight on conversational and sense of humor. Sometimes I feel guilty if I don't also find them as physically attractive though.
Hopeful30 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I don't think there is anything wrong with being picky. But being picky means it will be harder to fight a mate because not a lot of people will meet your standards.
Author avoforastig Posted January 24, 2014 Author Posted January 24, 2014 I feel bad because I recently started seeing someone, and despite things going well, I have a strange desire to explore other options. Unfortunately, I had previously indicated I was not that type of person. This is mainly due to the fact I didn't date much when I was younger and had a long term relationship for years.
Hopeful30 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I feel bad because I recently started seeing someone, and despite things going well, I have a strange desire to explore other options. Unfortunately, I had previously indicated I was not that type of person. This is mainly due to the fact I didn't date much when I was younger and had a long term relationship for years. So explore. If you are feeling this way, staying in a relationship or dating someone won't "fix" the problem or make these feelings go away. And dont do it just because its the "right" thing to do. Your feeling of wanting to explore will still be there no matter what. Keep exploring and dont date or settle down until you're ready.
jphcbpa Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 So explore. If you are feeling this way, staying in a relationship or dating someone won't "fix" the problem or make these feelings go away. And dont do it just because its the "right" thing to do. Your feeling of wanting to explore will still be there no matter what. Keep exploring and dont date or settle down until you're ready. agree...or else you will resent her. just be honest with yourself and others
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