LizzieTotoro Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 I feel awful today, day 3 NC and I feel the urge to contact her but I wont because it wouldnt go the way I wanted, theres a possibility shes out with him at the moment too. I suppose been stuck in bed with the flu leaves you missing the comfort. When does that urge of wanting to contact your ex go away? For some reason im holding myself back still from looking at other women, expecting her to pop up some where and accuse me of something or say that was the reason we broke up when I know shes probably out with him even though she denied everything, even evidence I found and played victim of accusations. I was wondering if when they leave do they actually change? Will she change from the negative, lieing, flirt into something amazing for him? Or would he just get the fake person I got at first. Its just fruatrating when you know you gave so much to someone and they never appreciated it. I still have her on Facebook which I know I should remove, shes been posting depressing songs, she always did this after she picked a fight and stopped speaking to me because she knew id listen to it, her current choice of song is snuff-Slipknot, a song about her been a victim to a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 You'll do nothing but extend your pain and delay your healing by keeping tabs on her life. She's gone, so put your focus on yourself. What can you do for yourself to enjoy this moment right now? What can you do to make this day enjoyable? Take care of yourself and you'll find that healing is much easier. But the more you check up and focus your mind on her the longer you will be in pain and the greater the pain you will be in. Link to post Share on other sites
devilish innocent Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 It takes a different amount of time for everyone to get over an ex. It's usually not an all or nothing thing. You just find yourself spending more and more time not caring about them, until eventually you don't care at all. A person's core values don't change based on who they're with. If she believes it's okay to lie and cheat behind someone's back, she'll do the same to him as soon as a more exciting prospect comes along. Given that he's an ex of hers, I wouldn't be surprised if she's already done it to him in the past. You should definitely delete her from Facebook. Don't get sucked into her pity party. She's not worth it. Try to find something better to occupy yourself with. Link to post Share on other sites
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