Wimenknow79 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 This is going to sound weird. I tried waiting months and sending random texts like all the experts say to get him to talk to me. Well one day I realized it had been 4 months since I contacted him. We ended things cause I pushed him and texted and called to much to fix it. I sent a couple of those off the bow texts and nothing. I did something different. I was honest. I told him I missed my friend and take responsibility in my part of everything that happened. I told him I would like to earn his trust back. He responded. We started texting. He even in a round about way I asked me if I had a boyfriend. He asked when I moved if I moved in with my boyfriend. I told I him I was kind of seeing someone a while back but not anymore. He told me his dad was not doing well and I sympathized with him. He did not want to let me go in text message. I kept everything on the friend level. He asked me to come over to talk. He said he would probably be laying down cause he wasn’t feeling well. He wasn’t. He was really sick. I got there and we just slept near each other. He got up to throw up a few times but you could tell he felt awful. He was dosed out on meds. He didn’t even want to talk at this point. He made some comments on how bad he must look and kept his cap on the entire time. I asked him guy advice on how to let this guy I know down gently and he did not seem that happy about talking about that. I told him I understood what he meant about us being to different and how we were raised differently. He didn’t like that. I hugged him when I left and told him I hope everything works out with his dad on his trip and I hope he feels better. I did sympathize with him while I was there. Does it seem like he’s opening the door to communicating. This happened on the 14th. I texted Sunday and said “Hey, I hope everything goes well with your dad’s chemo. I know its probably hard for you but it’s wonderful you are with them. I will be praying for you guys. You take care of yourself.” He said Thank you. I texted last night " I wish I was somewhere hot right now. It is too cold to do anything." I got no response. I thought of not texting for a little while then text something again kind of off the bow. Not sure where his mind is or if any of this means anything. He hasn't really initiated any contact but is kind of communicating now. I don't want to push to much, or text too much, or read too much into it. I am just acting nice and encouraging. Keeping things in the friend zone. He does scare easily. Is this the best approach? I know you can't make someone like you. I have heard it possible to re-attract someone but only if they are open to it. I'm not going to suggest meeting or anything like that. Just keep things light and friendly. He may be thinking just friends. Who knows? I do still like him. Any suggestions?
xUnknown Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Give him space. He's just getting over a sickness, his dad isn't doing well and now you're in the picture (maybe)..but you're on his mind. So just let things be. He's got a lot going on right now. He knows you're interested. Let him be the one to initiate things from now on. You just got out of a relationship (that is, if you did end it with that guy). I'm sure he doesn't want to be a rebound. So, don't jump the gun...with him or any other guy. You need time to be single. Focus on you. Let him focus on his things that are going on. He'll reach out to you, when he's ready, if he wants to. It sounds like he is interested or else he wouldn't have wanted to speak to you. So, take that as a good sign. Now let this sit for a little...let it all simmer.
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