ithappenedagain Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 ... and I LOVE rollercoasters! It truly sucks feeling good one day and then down in the dumps the next 2 days. I just have to figure out a way to make the good days outshine the bad days. The thing I have having a hard time with is telling myself that NO CONTACT is meant to heal me, not as a way to get her to miss me. With that said, I can see how it is benefiting me. During my last major heartbreak, I would snoop all over the place and just keep digging and digging and digging about information regarding my ex.... With this breakup, I immediately cut off all social media, and have made it a point NOT to ask friends about her or when they start talking about her I quickly change the subject. It's not easy though. I still have a MAJOR urge to just throw out a text to her or call her mom or grandma. I am only about 7 days of NC (minus one text message telling her that the movers were still coming followed by my final ''fairwell'' message to her)
jphcbpa Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 ... and I LOVE rollercoasters! It truly sucks feeling good one day and then down in the dumps the next 2 days. I just have to figure out a way to make the good days outshine the bad days. The thing I have having a hard time with is telling myself that NO CONTACT is meant to heal me, not as a way to get her to miss me. With that said, I can see how it is benefiting me. During my last major heartbreak, I would snoop all over the place and just keep digging and digging and digging about information regarding my ex.... With this breakup, I immediately cut off all social media, and have made it a point NOT to ask friends about her or when they start talking about her I quickly change the subject. It's not easy though. I still have a MAJOR urge to just throw out a text to her or call her mom or grandma. I am only about 7 days of NC (minus one text message telling her that the movers were still coming followed by my final ''fairwell'' message to her) Stay the course. You are supposed to feel this way if you gave yourself. Lean into the pain, do not try to cover it up or go around it. Heal up the right way. Learn and grow from this
firefly2613 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Tips: Change your phone number. Forget her number. Delete your social media. If you're not strong enough to do that give your info to someone you trust and then tell them to change the info so you cannot login. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her. Everything. Stay away from alcohol, drugs, rebounds, or any other vices. Accept the pain, feel it, and move. Crying sucks but it will make you feel better. Lean on friends. Make new friends. Take a vacation if you can. It's hard but eventually you will realize No Contact is not going to make her come back. 1
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