Author jnel921 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 I have this awful feeling when the OW in our case gets left by our husband, she already has been emotionally left by him, she will try to get back into my WH's life. Sometimes I feel sorry for her. Other times I want to punch her square in the face. Exactly how I feel. I just don't get her reason. Was the damage she did not enough! After the punch...I would probably scream at her and say... What the f*** could you possibly want now you dumb a$$! But I guess with broken teeth she may not be able to say...lmao.. a nice fantasy in my head.. 3
Author jnel921 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Your husband is a police officer, can't he do something to stop her from contacting him? Or would that just put more stress on him on the job? I don't think he wants to draw attention to himself or that situation again. I believe he can handle her. He is more concerned that she may try bothering me next. If that is the case I am sure he will take whatever steps necessary to stop the situation.
whichwayisup Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Sounds like you need to join a gym and punch the crap out of a punching bag! Do it! It might help relieve some of the anger! 3
Author jnel921 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Then he needs to talk to his sgt or superintendent, platoon chief - Someone who can have his back in case this nutty exOW tries to make waves with his job. Something to think about if she reaches out again. He has a new sergeant whom with he is becoming close. I haven't met him yet. He is married with 2 small children. His wife is eager to hang out with us but the thought still makes me uncomfortable. I don't think he wants to disclose the situation with him because he is afraid it may affect their growing relationship. He feels embarrassed about it all and I know he gets sad when he talks about it. I have nothing to say to the OW. If I ever saw her...I'd shake my head and walk out. Sad.
confusedandhurt2002 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Sometimes my fantasy is too real... I walk through punching her and imagine her screaming and clawing at me and eventually my husband has to drag me off her and I kick and scream while he is dragging me away and I end up kicking her in her face and break her nose. She's on the floor bleeding and crying adn looking all pathetic and then my husband realizes i'm a psycho and leaves me. So. Yeah. That's been a vivid vision lately that I'd like to burn out of my mind with a hot poker!! Plus, knowing my luck my husband would be turned on by it all;)Exactly how I feel. I just don't get her reason. Was the damage she did not enough! After the punch...I would probably scream at her and say... What the f*** could you possibly want now you dumb a$$! But I guess with broken teeth she may not be able to say...lmao.. a nice fantasy in my head..
WakingUp Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 This is very strange. After 14 months, she calls him and asks to talk. That's all she wants to do, is talk. According to your husband. And he behaves as he should and refuses. So, NC for 14 months and a request for a conversation with him has lead to such an extreme reaction from him? He rings you at 2am in a panic and throws up and turns it into she is a psycho and may try to drive a wedge between you? Im sorry, but something is not quite adding up here. I smell a rat. Trust, but verify. 2
whichwayisup Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 So my H calls me at 1:50am from work. He is in a panic He was very upset and called me with this new development after 14 months of NC after DDay. His concern was that she may be trying to create a wedge between us or worse try to hurt me. He came home this morning and was in tears and started throwing up. He kept apologizing for having putting me through this and was upset that she dared reach out to him again as if he cared. He said he only cared about me and our M and wished he could go back in time. He thinks she may be a fatal attraction case and is concerned. He was clearly very upset about the whole thing. You do need to think why he had such an extreme reaction to this? It's one thing to be upset and call you to tell you that the exOW called him at work, it's another to panic and throw up. Unless he is reacting from pain and emotions of hurting you and that made him sick. I really hope that is it, he's genuinally upset and feels awful as he knows it'll upset you all over again... and not that something has happened again and he is freaking out about it, not wanting exOW to contact you and mess things up, interfere and cause problems. It's just really odd after 14 months of NC, she appears and contacts him. Sorry for saying this.. In fact it never entered my mind until the previous poster posted about it just because your husband really has been working hard on himself and has gained your trust and respect again. What happened with the party just around Christmas? did you end up going?
confusedandhurt2002 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I told you people would try to throw doubts on it all.And yes...this is similar to the reaction my husband had when the OW tried to call him and I was in the room so I believe it. although my husband's was more pissed than that upset at the time. This is very strange. After 14 months, she calls him and asks to talk. That's all she wants to do, is talk. According to your husband. And he behaves as he should and refuses. So, NC for 14 months and a request for a conversation with him has lead to such an extreme reaction from him? He rings you at 2am in a panic and throws up and turns it into she is a psycho and may try to drive a wedge between you? Im sorry, but something is not quite adding up here. I smell a rat. Trust, but verify.
Author jnel921 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 My H is very remorseful. I think that over these past 14 months we both have been thankful that there has been no contact. On D-day my H was very emotional and got sick as well. The thought of losing his family does this to him I guess. He doesn't trust her. She said many things to me that were mostly lies. So his concern is that she is out to hurt again. He has worked hard to get to where he is in my heart. I don't think he wants anyone to destroy that.
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