King Bowls Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 This girl now keeps snapchatting me at least once a day and or texting me as well. Saying what's up and all that stuff. This is started because one day we started snapchatting and had a talk one day out in her car one night after school last week. I'm tired of it because she already has a boyfriend, and she's not that attractive. She's nice but... Is it wrong to think posting a picture on my Facebook of me and a bombshell blonde to intimidate her, maybe she'd leave me alone? (Intimidation being one of many reasons for posting the damn picture) Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 Could be honest with her and politely ask her to back off since she has a boyfriend, that you don't need to hear from her so much since she really isn't a close friend too. Or, post the picture. Maybe this can be done without hurting her feelings. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted January 24, 2014 Author Share Posted January 24, 2014 Could be honest with her and politely ask her to back off since she has a boyfriend, that you don't need to hear from her so much since she really isn't a close friend too. Or, post the picture. Maybe this can be done without hurting her feelings. I will try to do that. I posted the picture last weekend hoping it would "send the message" but idk of she's seen it or not, she hasn't said anything about it Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 How did you get the pic of the blonde? Even if she falls for it and doesn't smell that you two aren't dating it's not really a turnoff for women to think you're dating someone stunning. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 "I'll say this just once, and say it nicely: Please quit calling me. You have a BF, and frankly, I can't spend all day talking to you, so I think it best you cool things and quit contacting me. Focus on your BF, I'm sure he's far more deserving. The next time I need to say it, I may not be so nice....." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cakess Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 Yeah, the next time she contacts you use the conversation killers! "K", "Tru", , "yea" and my favorite, "hows your boyfriend doing??" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 what cakess said ... truer words were never spoken. basically, she uses you for attention and confirmation, then goes home where her bf offers her sex. I say take the power back and plain ol' ignore her! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted January 25, 2014 Author Share Posted January 25, 2014 How did you get the pic of the blonde? Even if she falls for it and doesn't smell that you two aren't dating it's not really a turnoff for women to think you're dating someone stunning. I was working at my granddads store, then she walked in, and I respectfully asked to get a picture with her (I mean damn she is beautiful!) and she was flattered to do so. I was happy, and that made my day. I made a big mistake (it may or may not be big), but I said last Sunday I think after I had posted the picture that I got a picture with a model blonde girl and that it made me happy, I sent a 2nd text quickly after, I don't remember what it was. She replied to my second text, but did not reply to my text about taking that picture. I hope that means that text went right over her head. How do I get her to think I'm communicating with this beautiful girl and getting close to getting serious? Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted January 25, 2014 Author Share Posted January 25, 2014 "I'll say this just once, and say it nicely: Please quit calling me. You have a BF, and frankly, I can't spend all day talking to you, so I think it best you cool things and quit contacting me. Focus on your BF, I'm sure he's far more deserving. The next time I need to say it, I may not be so nice....." I appreciate the advice. Good to hear from you again TaraMaiden My development of chimp strength (grip/pull strength) is coming along nicely Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted January 25, 2014 Author Share Posted January 25, 2014 what cakess said ... truer words were never spoken. basically, she uses you for attention and confirmation, then goes home where her bf offers her sex. I say take the power back and plain ol' ignore her! What really agitates me is that when she comes up to the learning lab at school and having this stupid look on her face after playing softball all day Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 What really agitates me is that when she comes up to the learning lab at school and having this stupid look on her face after playing softball all day She has a puppy dog crush on you and that is why she has that look on her face. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 Whatever happened to having a little gumption or moxy to tell the person - politely - to not message you anymore? I will try to do that. Oh my fault, you don't have the moxy. You'll just "try". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 What really agitates me is that when she comes up to the learning lab at school and having this stupid look on her face after playing softball all day U have two choices here: - either ask her out - and ignore the bf part, because she is making herself available to you - either ignore the hell out of her if you asked her out on the past and got the "I got a bf" story, I would apply the "k", "ha" and "yeah" responses, a few hours after she texted u 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 I made a big mistake (it may or may not be big), but I said last Sunday I think after I had posted the picture that I got a picture with a model blonde girl and that it made me happy, I sent a 2nd text quickly after, I don't remember what it was. She replied to my second text, but did not reply to my text about taking that picture. I hope that means that text went right over her head. How do I get her to think I'm communicating with this beautiful girl and getting close to getting serious? Why even text her? And text her in succession? Leave big gaps, answer coolly but politely if you must respond, and get on with *your* life. You don't need to 'get her to think' anything. Just create distance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted January 25, 2014 Author Share Posted January 25, 2014 Why even text her? And text her in succession? Leave big gaps, answer coolly but politely if you must respond, and get on with *your* life. You don't need to 'get her to think' anything. Just create distance. If I reply to her text, it's usually at least 4-6 hours later. She last texted me at I think 9:30 am yesterday, have not replied to it. I just want her to see the picture on facebook, and say something to me about it. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 Well she won't. because she's probably mature and savvy enough to know that it's a fix. leave her be, stop seeking attention, and go, and stay, No Contact. What's the point, exactly, other than feeding your own ego? So what? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted January 25, 2014 Author Share Posted January 25, 2014 Well she won't. because she's probably mature and savvy enough to know that it's a fix. leave her be, stop seeking attention, and go, and stay, No Contact. What's the point, exactly, other than feeding your own ego? So what? No she's not mature enough to see it, I've talked to her in conversation so that's how I know. What's the point? To get her to leave me alone, like the title of the thread says. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 Well if you want her to leave you alone, leave her alone. Quit fishing. Block her, de-friend her and go No Contact. Stop being such a "look at me" drama queen... FFS.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 ...... I just want her to see the picture on facebook, and say something to me about it. Why? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 No she's not mature enough to see it, I've talked to her in conversation so that's how I know. What's the point? To get her to leave me alone, like the title of the thread says. Then just be completely honest with her. "Look, we really aren't friends and for some reason you text me..A lot. I don't mean to be rude or hurt your feelings but I'd appreciate it if you stopped texting me so much." Or something along those lines. Even go so far as telling her you find it pointless since she has a boyfriend and she should be focusing on him not you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 Unless she's said anything solid shes probably just being friendly. Maybe she has trouble making friends. I used to be really friendly to lots and lots of guys ..... to just be friends. And a lot of them WERE my friends (no, NOT "friendzoned") A lot of guys thought I was just trying to grease their sausages though. I learned young that men give themselves too muvh credit in some areas but not enough in others LMAO 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 If I reply to her text, it's usually at least 4-6 hours later. She last texted me at I think 9:30 am yesterday, have not replied to it. I just want her to see the picture on facebook, and say something to me about it. I don't think you want this girl to stop messaging you. You like the attention you're getting from her, even though you claim it's annoying. You don't have the gumption to tell her to leave you alone, and you don't have the gumption to admit you enjoy the attention. So what game are you playing? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
nomadic_butterfly Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 OP you must still be in high school or budding stages of college because this is so immature. Stop responding all together. If she was so annoying why add her to FB in the first place? I think you are reading too much into things. When I don't want to talk to someone I just don't. Simple. If someone never replies to me I take the hint and carry on with life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 This is a good lesson in learning how to be assertive in your life, OP. Telling this girl how you feel, that she needs to stop, is a good lesson in being assertive. The assertive person politely and civilly tells the girl to stop. You don't even have to explain yourself. The passive person doesn't do a thing. The passive-aggressive person does what you did, posting a picture of a beautiful woman on your FB in the hopes that the other person will get the hint. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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