slightly_unusual Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 ive only been with my latest girlfriend ( officially ) for a full month , we see each other twice per week , what I mean is we spend the night together twice per week , is that around average in terms of immediate contact , we speak by phone , Skype or text everyday though for rarely longer than ten mins or so im not remotely bored but I do like to keep things exciting and fear too much contact might get tedious
soccerrprp Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 everyone is different. if the two of you are okay with the arrangement, then don't worry about it. so, are you taking your gf out on a date during these two days? Or is it only for sex, sleeping over?
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 everyone is different. if the two of you are okay with the arrangement, then don't worry about it. so, are you taking your gf out on a date during these two days? Or is it only for sex, sleeping over? no , whenever we meet , we do stuff
TXGuy Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 That frequency is exactly what I like. That way, you are both a little excited to see each other each time.
d0nnivain Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 If it ain't broke don't fix it. If you two are happy, who cares what the rest of the world does or doesn't do? 3
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 If it ain't broke don't fix it. If you two are happy, who cares what the rest of the world does or doesn't do? its not a case of what other people do , most people are similar enough in that fatigue can arise when over exposed to anything including ones girlfriend - boyfriend , things can become stale and its not like any strong loyality exists in such a new relationship im just wondering what the average amount of communication is at this stage , im not insecure about things but like I said , its better not to become complacent
soccerrprp Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 5 days or more? Calling or chatting almost everyday. otherwise its not a real thing. I hear you Chopstickz. OP, when things get serious, it has to be much more frequent, eventually daily. Right now, it's a convenient relationship, but if there is going to be more, more frequency will be required. You don't really know someone until you live day to day with that person. But, for now, sounds like it's working.
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 5 days or more? Calling or chatting almost everyday. otherwise its not a real thing. what do you mean " five days or more " do you mean five days per week ?
somedude81 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 My ex and I were together for six months and on average we saw each other three days a week. It wasn't close to enough for me.
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 My ex and I were together for six months and on average we saw each other three days a week. It wasn't close to enough for me. that's interesting , I live ninety mins from my girlfriend so seeing each other twice per week requires effort
somedude81 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 that's interesting , I live ninety mins from my girlfriend so seeing each other twice per week requires effort Distance was also a factor in my relationship and I think it was a key issue in why we broke up. Some couples are able to make it work. Some don't.
Phantom888 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 depends on how busy you are, and how much you accomplish together. 2X a week sounds reasonable. My GF and I saw each other 2-3 times a week in the beginning, and I didn't sleep over. Now we see each other 3-4 times a week and I sleep over most of the time. If it feels natural and no one is smothered, keep doing it.
pickflicker Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 As often as you want. Every couple is different. Continue to discuss your needs in the relationship and come up with a plan that works for both of you.
Dallers Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Meeting up twice and chatting at others times would be more than enough for me. Each to their own but you have to be able to miss someone as the absence does make the heart grow fonder. Not to mention too much of one person makes me sick!
ASG Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 For me it would have to be an almost every day thing. Which is why I would find it difficult to date someone who lived far.
Sane Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I would think that if a person were dating someone and shared a lot of chemistry, they would want to be around eachother everyday. Especially if they first start dating. 1
allenpo123 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I work a lot and I'm usually quite tired after work, so meeting twice a week with daily messages and phone calls after work seems fine for me:) Keep a little excitement there
CrystalCastles Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 There's absolutely nothing wrong with meeting twice a week if that makes you both happy! My best friend has been seeing her boyfriend for almost 5 months and because she has uni and work, she can only see him once a week. But the both of them are very much in love, and he recently took her on a weekend trip to a ski resort. Sometimes life gets in the way and you can't afford to see a person many times throughout the week, especially if there's distance. All that matters is if you're happy and she's happy with the current arrangement. Best of luck!
Billy1995fifa Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I would think that if a person were dating someone and shared a lot of chemistry, they would want to be around eachother everyday. Especially if they first start dating. Agree with Sane. If i have a girlfriend and i be happy with 3/4 times seeing each other per week. Because if you see eachother everyday i think you get bored of your boyfriend/girlfriend very quickly at 1st. But it all depends how far it is from each other...
candy411 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Lately I've become more aware of the fact that you must do what works for you, and forget about standard protocol or societal expectations. Being with another complex human being is difficult and relationships are not one size fits all. I think your current rate of seeing each other is really good, but i would ask her if you feel unsure. Don't be afraid to converse, negotiate, and reassess from time to time. Communication about these topics is good..even though most people don't have these discussions until there really is a problem.
Recommended Posts