Ladies, do you ever feel like just slapping a guy?

[SouthpawSaviour]

I don't condone violence in any way, and it isn't right to hit people no matter what gender you are.

 

But I don't really get bent out of shape if a female slaps me, especially if I deserve it. I quite often tease my girlfriend by slapping her stomach (she hates that) and flicking her nose or cheek.

 

Sometimes she gets irritated and just tells me to stop. (It's playful because she laughs). But the other day, without warning she responded to a flick by slapping me right across the face. Another time, I sternly demanded that she go down to her kitchen and make me a cup of coffee, and I got the same result. Slap.

 

So girls, is there anything your boyfriends, or guys do around you that make you just want to use the palm of your hand to get your point across? Has it ever gotten actually serious to where you hit him hard and out of anger? How did he react?

[somedude81]

You need to tell her that's it's not OK to slap you.

[Frank2thepoint]

But I don't really get bent out of shape if a female slaps me, especially if I deserve it.

 

Regardless of gender, even if you deserved it, it's still not acceptable. Have some self-respect and tell your girlfriend not to slap you, but communicate with you.

[Keenly]

I'll eat a playful slap with a smile on my face. But if its like a REAL slap, and I didn't just kill her parents in front of her, I'd consider that abuse .

[MrCastle]

Depends on the moment. During sex? Okay. Play fighting? Sure. A means to "discipline" me? No way.

 

I often get the urge to slap girls and often do. Just not on the face.

 

By the way -- you "demanded" she make you coffee? Lol what did you expect?

[Mondmellonw]

It's not OK by any means.

 

I res guarded a lot of resentment towards my ex during our relationship (he lied, used me, etc, I never confronted him about it, shame on me).

One day he got really mad at me cause I kinda poked his forehead. He got angry as hell and wanted to leave. (A male friend of mine told me he was being a drama queen, Idk...) I apologized.

 

However: You should not let any poke, slap, or whatever, happen.

One thing leads to another. You need to set boundaries with her.

 

Also: Don't demand things; try to gently ask for them.

 

And she needs to tell you if she feels mad and work on her communication skills, she doesn't has to slap you to make you notice she is angry. That's immature and unhealthy.

[darkmoon]

um, I am way too tiny to strart a fight, if I got a slap back I would just fall over and feel srs pain

[acrosstheuniverse]

Only during sex, to get him to slap me back, if I'm in the mood for rough.

 

Outside of the bedroom? If I slapped a guy in anger and he didn't leave me I would lose respect for him. Abuse is abuse, irregardless of gender.

 

Really angers me on soaps when you see a girl slap a guy for cheating or something and everyone just accepts it like he 'deserves it'. If a guy found his girlfriend had cheated and hit her, it'd be a whole other matter.

[Eau Claire]

I don't condone violence in any way, and it isn't right to hit people no matter what gender you are.

 

But I don't really get bent out of shape if a female slaps me, especially if I deserve it. I quite often tease my girlfriend by slapping her stomach (she hates that) and flicking her nose or cheek.

 

Sometimes she gets irritated and just tells me to stop. (It's playful because she laughs). But the other day, without warning she responded to a flick by slapping me right across the face. Another time, I sternly demanded that she go down to her kitchen and make me a cup of coffee, and I got the same result. Slap.

 

So girls, is there anything your boyfriends, or guys do around you that make you just want to use the palm of your hand to get your point across? Has it ever gotten actually serious to where you hit him hard and out of anger? How did he react?

 

No. I think you might want to seek some help. Why do you not know the answer is 'no'?

[Woggle]

It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

[SouthpawSaviour]

Calm down people. It is healthy. I told her I enjoy her fiestiness, I just wanted to share some experiences.

[Phoe]

I would never slap my boyfriend, and if he ever did something to me to make me feel compelled to slap him, I'd realize that at that point, respect between us is gone and the relationship is done.

[soccerrprp]

Here's something that I'm getting....she really does NOT enjoy your flicking at her and her laughing is more of a nervous acceptance of what was made clear annoyed her. What mature guy flicks his gf on the cheek, nose and stomach and think it's flattering or endearing or funny????

 

This one time (or two) she gave you her raw and unfiltered response to your annoying behavior. Sheesh...

[Lixxy]

Sternly demanding your girlfriend go and make you coffee is pathetic. Equally so is your girlfriend slapping you when it's a genuine slap and isn't as part of horseplay you're both enjoying and consenting to.

 

Any woman who uses violence to resolve conflict or for any reason is just as disgusting as a man who does the same to his female partner.

[anne1707]

You are repeatedly humiliating your girlfriend yet you question her behaviour? It could be argued that you have provoked her. I personally don't understand why she tolerates the way you treat her.

[Scales]

Lets all relax here. The 1st case is clearly play fighting. The 2nd case was sarcasm. Do you think he seriously yelled at his gf to get in her kitchen in make coffee like it was a serious command? I think its up to both parties to define their relationship.

 

I would just laugh and tell her to do it again. Its a slap. Its not like she punched you in the balls.

[anne1707]

What is play fighting to one May be considered abuse by another. Face flicking is not play fighting. Slapping someone on the stomach when you know they don't like it is not play fighting.

 

I agree that she should not have hit him. She should just dump him.

[Silly Girl924]

If she gets irritated by u flicking, don't flick!! I'm not saying she should have slapped u, but stop the flicking! She probably sees her slap as an equivalent to your flicking, because she knew it would irritate u, so stop! I know it's all fun in games, but sometimes it gets annoying

[soccerrprp]

After thinking about it a little more, I agree with some....you provoked her. Your flicking is not endearing as I've said. Perhaps you enjoy someone flicking you in the face and areas of the body that you may have some insecurities over. Don't know how this even began and why in the world you'd think it was acceptable.

 

Grow up and stop it and cue in on the fact that your gf doesn't find it funny.

 

BTW, after she slapped you both times, was she laughing? Joking about it?

[Silly Girl924]

Wait, also "I firmly demanded she made coffee" or whatever and "she slapped me again" I hope this post is a troll. If not, you'll be lonely for a veryyy long time.

[Phantom888]

My ex-GF slapped me so hard I flew over the couch and sprained my neck. She was mad because I accused her of being a blood-sucking user.

[fatalcharm]

No matter what gender you are, it's not ok to hit someone of the opposite gender or the same gender. It's not ok to hit anyone at all.

 

Having said that, I punched my ex boyfriend about a year and a half ago. I regret doing it, not because I didn't think that he deserved it, but because I lowered myself to his level.

[ThatMan]

Maybe she'll respect you more if you go about this differently. Try demanding pancakes in the middle of the night.

[ascendotum]

I often get the urge to slap girls and often do. Just not on the face.

 

By the way -- you "demanded" she make you coffee? Lol what did you expect?

 

Actually I thought she was way out of line on the coffee incident, but not on the nose flicking incident. He kind of earned it then if she had warned him on a number of occasions to quit it. A punch in the arm/chest would have been better, but I guess he knows now he pushed her buttons on that. In his shoes on the coffee incident, I would have been pissed off and let her ****ing know it.

 

I remember reading a post here about a girl punching her bf in the face after she found out he had cheated on her, and was really surprised to read most people here had sympathy for the guy. Some where talking about getting the cops & lawyers involved (Geeesch)

[HokeyReligions]

Oh HELL YES there are times I wanted to slap the crap outta hubby. Im sure hes felt like that about me. See my thread on Quirks of the OP.

 

I do slap at him sometimes when he irritates me but we both laugh. He messes with my feet because I CANNOT STAND to have my feet touched. I'd rather have teeth pulled with no novocain.

 

A long time w go when we were in college the tables were arranged around the wall. We all had our backs to the center of the room and theprofessor was in the center. Anyway we were sitting together and he was irritating me and I hauled off and started slapping him. Not hard and never across the face. We giggled then realized the room had gone silent. We looked around and the poor instructor looked terrified - like "what do I do now!" I said "its OK we're married" and everyone chuckled and went back to their computers