SoonMyFriend Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 ... probably means nothing right? Backstory if you want it: we hooked up after a night out with friends, we see each other now & then in passing but we haven't spoken much outside of "hi, how are you?". A few days after we hooked up I had texted him to say I'd go for drinks or something sometime to show I was interested in him, but he said he was just out of a relationship and didn't want to start anything when he knew he wasn't ready. So we left it at that and never discussed things again since. (I actually had a thread about this ONS elsewhere here). So why the add a month later? I know it's probably nothing, but to me it's a bit weird... does he just want to creep? Keep tabs on me as a back burner girl? Or could he possibly be considering asking me out at some point? Facebook is the devil.
Phantom888 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Maybe so he can keep you on the back burner while he has ONS with other girls. In case he needs sex and has no one to call, he can always contact you via facebook or something. The key is he wants to keep in contact in case he wants to have sex with you again. 2
Frank2thepoint Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 He is trying to keep you around. But whether for more booty calls or possible progress to dating, that's something he knows and time will tell.
Zelias Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 ... probably means nothing right? Backstory if you want it: we hooked up after a night out with friends, we see each other now & then in passing but we haven't spoken much outside of "hi, how are you?". A few days after we hooked up I had texted him to say I'd go for drinks or something sometime to show I was interested in him, but he said he was just out of a relationship and didn't want to start anything when he knew he wasn't ready. So we left it at that and never discussed things again since. (I actually had a thread about this ONS elsewhere here). So why the add a month later? I know it's probably nothing, but to me it's a bit weird... does he just want to creep? Keep tabs on me as a back burner girl? Or could he possibly be considering asking me out at some point? Facebook is the devil. You asked him to go out, he denied because he was not ready to get into a relationship, that right there should tell you he is not a keeper. Don't give him a chance, find other guys to go out with. He is going to use you as a backup while hooking up with other women. Best of luck to you!
deathandtaxes Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 You don't have to accept his friend request. And you can block him if you really want to.
Author SoonMyFriend Posted January 24, 2014 Author Posted January 24, 2014 Oh by no means am I going to wait around for this guy... I was more curious and confused than anything. I've got a date tonight anyways! Just wanted to see what others thought since it seemed so bizarre he'd randomly add me.
Guitarisgood Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Well if you want him to leave you alone, just shoot him a message that you are pregnant. He will run for the hills and never bother you again 2
Author SoonMyFriend Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Haha... guitar I'll keep that in mind!!
soccerrprp Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 OP, your kind of curiosity typically implies, at worst, that you are more than curious, rather interested in knowing if you have another chance, eh? Well, you should be able to block him entirely so that he cannot keep up with your day-to-day life unless of course you really want him to....hmmm.
Author SoonMyFriend Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Of course I'm curious if I have another chance. I'm still attracted to him, but I don't want to be his FWB or back burner. I'm also a curious person by nature and overthink things. In this case - it all just struck me as odd. He has my phone number so if he wants a drunken booty call nothing is stopping him from texting me. He also has my email. I haven't flirted with him since the night we hooked up. I haven't given him any further signals I'd still be interested. So it just confused me, and my brain went to work on the rest. I just didn't understand why you'd friend someone you slept once over a month ago... I had a fling over Christmas and have no desire to add that person to Facebook, for example.
truth_seeker Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I just didn't understand why you'd friend someone you slept once over a month ago... I had a fling over Christmas and have no desire to add that person to Facebook, for example. I can see why he would want you as a FWB or back burner option.
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