songbyrd Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 The girl he claims to be so "happy" with lives with her baby daddy! My ex tries to rub his relationship in my face not knowing that I have this info. He has also been going crazy trying to contact me ever since I went NC 17 days ago. What do y'all think about this funny scenario??
Philosoraptor Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I think you should stop worrying about what he has going on in his life, stop communicating with him, block him, and focus on yourself. 2
TheyCallMeOx Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I think you're putting yourself in a bad situation. You may have been going NC for 17 days, but that's only half the equation. If you keep getting info about your ex's life, you're going to continue finding out things that are going to upset you. Stop pursuing information about your ex's life because what he does is irrelevant now. The truth is that he can do and say whatever he wants because he's no longer in a relationship with you. Whatever he's trying to do, it doesn't really matter unless you want it to matter. 1
lauri Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 NC also means not knowing anything about them as well. Meaning no checking social media, etc. How are you finding out this information about him? You should really stop worrying about whats going on in his life - I know it is hard but you are only setting yourself up for some more pain. We both know prolonging the pain is not beneficial for you and can only set you backwards.
Author songbyrd Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 I think you should stop worrying about what he has going on in his life, stop communicating with him, block him, and focus on yourself. I think u shouldn't assume. I don't communicate with him, nor do I seek info about him. He sends me massive texts & emails but I have not responded. I love when folks throw out words like "stop worrying about this person" or "move on" as if it's so easy. Have some compassion when replying to people.
Author songbyrd Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 NC also means not knowing anything about them as well. Meaning no checking social media, etc. How are you finding out this information about him? You should really stop worrying about whats going on in his life - I know it is hard but you are only setting yourself up for some more pain. We both know prolonging the pain is not beneficial for you and can only set you backwards. Check the comment I just posted above. I don't seek out info. When we first split up, a mutual friend of ours told me. When I say I've been NC, I mean it. He messages me but I don't respond and I removed him on social media. I posted my thread to get an opinion on what I stated, nothing else.
Author songbyrd Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 I think you're putting yourself in a bad situation. You may have been going NC for 17 days, but that's only half the equation. If you keep getting info about your ex's life, you're going to continue finding out things that are going to upset you. Stop pursuing information about your ex's life because what he does is irrelevant now. The truth is that he can do and say whatever he wants because he's no longer in a relationship with you. Whatever he's trying to do, it doesn't really matter unless you want it to matter. Check my comments above
purplehues Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Oh man…he's still at it? No word from mine yet…I hate it and appreciate it. It really sounds like he's a highly confused, somewhat manipulative individual. Definitely selfish. Is there a way you can block him from texting you? That way you can free yourself of analyzing what he sends to you. I know that's a scary prospect because the next text that comes from him could be the one asking you to come back. The question is, would you? I'm not so sure I would, seems like things would just go back to what they were without a sufficient amount of time in between--however that's measured. I'm so glad you're maintaining NC. I haven't broken it yet, but I've been tempted to. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be advising people on here because I'm such a mess. But it helps to know we're not alone in our pain/weakness. You hang in there
Author songbyrd Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 Oh man…he's still at it? No word from mine yet…I hate it and appreciate it. It really sounds like he's a highly confused, somewhat manipulative individual. Definitely selfish. Is there a way you can block him from texting you? That way you can free yourself of analyzing what he sends to you. I know that's a scary prospect because the next text that comes from him could be the one asking you to come back. The question is, would you? I'm not so sure I would, seems like things would just go back to what they were without a sufficient amount of time in between--however that's measured. I'm so glad you're maintaining NC. I haven't broken it yet, but I've been tempted to. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be advising people on here because I'm such a mess. But it helps to know we're not alone in our pain/weakness. You hang in there Hey hun. I know how u feel. Time seemed to go by so slow in the beginning but now I'm like wow, over a month already went by! Keeping busy is key. As for my ex, yes he is being very selfish and manipulative right now. I've never ever seen him in this light but it's because he's desperate for a sign of care from me. People do some strange things when they're desperate. I can get an app to block his texts, but there's also the emails. Im gonna let it be for now. I have a strong feeling he's going to show up at my house soon so I'm preparing myself for that. Would I take him back? It all depends on what he does to make it work. People can speculate and say whatever they want, but I know we had a really good relationship. He made a very poor decision in the end and now he's suffering because I left him alone with that decision. I wouldn't jump back in with him, but if he took time to make it right I would give it another go. There is a chance though that may be over him by the time he comes around. You will see that as time passes, ur emotions and desires will switch up frequently. No matter what, just keep NC and focus on making u happy. U will come out on top.
Sandy99 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 You should have a good laugh about the news you heard, and then keep not talking to this idiot you were dating.
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