DNB127RG Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Good Morning All. Little background before I start. I am in my mid forties and have been divorced for about 5 years. No kids even though that is not really relevant here. This is not my first go around with online dating but it has been a couple years. My objective is long term and while I don't hide that I also don't call attention to it. Anyway. I signed up for a site a few weeks ago with this approach. Fill out my profile....... look at a bunch of profiles.......... sent emails to 6 women hoping to get a couple replies.......... I actually got good replies. 5 out or 6 replied and I am off to the races getting to know new people. I did a couple emails back and forth and have given my phone number to 4 of them. of those 4 I have texted with all 4, met 3 in person for first dates, and actually had a second date with one. To me this is how online dating is done. If something is right it will flourish and if it isn't right it will fizzle. Anyway again..... I am not a very good sit at home person. I love to travel and have been to many countries and and many place here within the US and I do talk about it of course when I meet people. I have a week off work coming up next week but I have no plans as of yet to go anywhere. The person that I have been out on 2 dates with has suggested that she take the same time off and we go some place together. This stunned me just a bit..... To be honest at this point I do not even know her last name. Our dates have been dinners at restaurants with follow up glasses of wine at a quiet bar. First kiss seemed a bit cold to me but I don't judge too fast because first kisses often seem that way. I am an intensely passionate person but I understand that can take time to come out. Through conversation I have learned that since my first email she has not communicated with anyone other than me on the website. She is a very nice person but I don't feel we have come to the "go away for a week" phase of the relationship. Like I said I only know her first name but my hesitancy seems to have devastated her. I have no idea what to do and would love opinions on that. I suspect that the person I have been on one date with has also stopped communications with everyone except me. Is my approach of meeting multiple people wrong?
Frank2thepoint Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Her suggesting going away together after what, two dates, is very forward and surprising suggestion. She probably had genuine intentions, yet she may have felt like she could be swept up with you on the traveling angle. You were right to hesitate on agreeing to partake in a couple's jaunt, but you could of also reassured her that it is too soon to undertake something of that nature. Going on a trip together is intimate. You should speak with her about the topic, and if you are willing to invest time into exploring if she can be a little more passionate about you, not just travelling, then consider only dating her for now.
TXGuy Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Your current approach is fine. Don't get stuck with a stranger for a week. Trips should be reserved for women you know well and graduate from overnight trips to weekend trips to a week or mor. You also have to watch out with traveling with women. Over half of them will expect the man to pay for the bulk oh the trip, if not the whole thing.
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