Jon434432 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 My ex broke up with me couple months 4 months ago. But at that time we were still talkin which was my big mistake. Than she found someone new. We haven't spoke for 3 weeks and than we kind of started talking more on fb. Only for like a min or 2. Short and simple talks. and she said that I look cute. Whatever that means. But that's it. Should I continue to talk to her? I do want her back despite her having a new man but she also don't want to admit that she does. What shall I do?
d0nnivain Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 If she has a new BF, at best she wants you for a friend. I can't imagine much that would be more painful then watching her new happy life with him from the sidelines all the while wanting that. If you hope to get over her, remove her from all of your social media circles & put some meaningful distance in your contact. 1
xUnknown Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Please cut her off. Go No Contact all the way. That will help you get over her. If you want her back, that is the only way you'll get her back. But this is not the goal of NC. The goal of NC is to move on. I started doing so, thats when my ex came back. Move on with your life, forget her, she's in the past. You have to heal. You can't be friends. She wants you there to ease the pain of the breakup...she knows that she "wasn't that bad of a person" because you remained friends with her. All you're doing is helping her move on by remaining friends. But, she has a new bf. So cut her off. You can't be friends. 1
jphcbpa Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 look at this like emotional abuse...she is using you as an emotional fall back to heal and forget about you. 1
Author Jon434432 Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 I am actually over her. When I found out I didn't care about it and it didn't bug me. I shed all the tears I've had for her that there isn't any left for me. And if we do get back it'll be cool and if not I'll be good with it also.
Author Jon434432 Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 She also has to give me money every month to pay one of her tution for school and is under my name and she doesn't have enough to pay in full. So it will be hard to stay in NC with her
d0nnivain Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 She also has to give me money every month to pay one of her tution for school and is under my name and she doesn't have enough to pay in full. So it will be hard to stay in NC with her What?!!! If you are broken up with her you need to severe your financial ties to her immediately. If you are not together the likelihood that she will pay you back diminishes greatly. If you can't turn off the tap at least sit down with lawyers & write a promissory note.
Author Jon434432 Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 No she has been paying me for the past 4 months now and just paid me again last week.
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