The lacking POF "About Me" section

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I get a kick out of dating profiles lately of women, they put up plenty of pictures, but I saw this recent "About Me" section where she had

 

"Gotta get to know me.... Hard to describe"

 

I've seen longer versions of where they say, "I hate talking about myself on here" or "I find it hard to describe myself on here, so if you have any questions, feel free to email me."

 

Of course if you do, they'll never reply anyway.

 

Think they are

 

1. Lazy

2. Lack substance to begin with

3. Getting tired of the men emailing them for their pictures because they never read the profile anyways.

 

Actually, I've seen "return customers" saying they decided to go with the "Brief" About Me section only because they said that men only contact them for their pictures and nothing more

[TheyCallMeOx]

I think that, in a way, an "about me" section reflects a person's personality. I don't think it's about laziness, but I think that it has more to do with openness and artistic ability. Most of the long "about me" sections I've read (when I was on a dating service) were not just factual but entertaining. When I was actually able to talk to a few of them, they were pretty open and fun to talk to; however, talking with the women who had short "about me" sections...the conversations seemed more like a business transaction. We were just passing questions back and forth, and it was awkward as hell. I don't want to generalize why people create short "about me" sections, but that's what I gather.

 

If you have a long and entertaining "about me" section, then that's the kind of stuff you need to look for in a woman. If it's the case, I'm willing to bet that you're more of an open kind of dude, you take online dating very seriously, you're not afraid to let people in on your life, and etc. If you do have a long about me section, you have to ask the question: "why did I take the time to make a long about me section?" Maybe it's for a reason I didn't describe.

 

If it bothers you that certain women don't have long "about me" sections, then your focus needs to be on women with long "about me." Yeah, it'll probably impact the amount of opportunity that is out there, but if we feel that it's important...then we have to honor our feelings.

 

Also, it seems like you message a lot of women and don't get responses. The thing about women on online dating services is that they probably get tons of messages throughout the day. I mean...they're women...it's really not that hard for a woman to find a dude to have ANY feelings for her (even if it's only just sexual feelings). To women, online dating is like going shopping. There's so much stuff out there, and they have absolutely no obligation to try anything on or buy it. A lot of women can probably pick and choose who they want to consider talking to so you gotta ask the question...why should they talk to me? First impressions mean everything on online dating. If you say the right thing, you'll land a message. If you say the wrong thing, they won't even visit your profile. If your profile pictures isn't to their liking, it won't land a message. There's a lot of factors that play into whether you'll get a response or not. The ideal situation is that you want to create an amazing profile that portrays who you are, get a nice profile picture, and let the WOMEN MESSAGE YOU. When I was online dating, I landed a date with a woman who liked my profile. I was able to get 4 phone numbers from the dating service, and they were all from women who liked my profile or personally messaged me. The ones who messaged me first were the women who liked my profile. Don't pursue women so much. Be patient.

[Zeroes]

When I did OL/D (including on POF) I noticed some men would do that too. If their "Interests" contained anything I found interesting/compatible I admit I would message them simply because I found them physically attractive, and then see what would happen from there, sometimes they genuinely do just don't know how to write a profile and would rather share those details with you personally than publicly, others, were just lazy.

 

But I would never message the guys who would fill their About Me with random crap like "..........." or "kjdhsdkjhs". Obviously they're the trolls or ones that aren't serious/making an effort, and I would ignore their messages to me as well, usually because they would start with the "Hey babe ;)" stuff, which is obviously because they're trawling for sex.

 

It really is best to have a profile, of course.

[KatZee]

Yup. Like 90% of people have nothing or absolute garbage in their "About Me" section.

 

I actually DO have one. And I can't tell you how many people messaged me and the first thing they all say is, "Your profile is so honest and I respect you for saying what you said and I never see profiles like this, I'd like to get to know you."

 

My favorite POF profiles are the one's that have phony pictures. One dude has messaged me a number of times, and his main picture is ripped right from a Men's Warehouse advertisement. I mean, come on.