Lady2163 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I mentioned in another post that I'm really not high maintenance and it got me thinking about what I would look for in a mate or life partner/live in. 1. Physically attractive and sexually compatible 2. If he has kids, financially stable, no kids (and my age) financially solvent. I don't need him Donald Trump wealthy, but I'd like someone who spends less than they earn and has a plan for retirement 3. Spends time with me - enjoys doing activities with me that we BOTH like 4. Spends time away from me 5. Self - governemt. This is HUGE for me. This means he cleans up after himself, he doesn't need to be told to mow the yard, shovel snow. He actually puts his towel in the dirty clothes hamper and doesn't need a maid or mommy to take care of him. Being an adult sometimes sucks. Being the only adult in a relationship makes it difficult for "mommy" to get motivated to have sex with her "son" 6. I would like someone who is a bit of a mind reader in the gift department - makes a big deal out of birthday, Christmas, Valentines Day. 7. Cares about his parents (and kids) but still puts our relationship first 8. Doesn't drink in excess or use illegal drugs 9. Mentally sound...no anger issues 10. Within 5 years of my age. 11. Recognizes that hobbies are not a way of life. What is on other people's list?
d0nnivain Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I need a sense of humor & good conversation. Since I'm a lousy cook I prefer someone who is good in the kitchen but that's a want not a need.
MissBee Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 (edited) Emotionally mature and emotionally intelligent. Intelligent and ambitious, is passionate about something in life and can inspire me. Spiritually aware and have some sense of spirituality. Family oriented: loves his own family and wants a family with me. Great sense of humor, witty, does well with sarcasm Naturally monogamous, one woman kind of guy Generous - cannot do cheap, selfish and miserly men at all Gentleman Romantic Responsible Communicates well (I also like a nice voice and someone I can talk to easily who can teach me things and go toe to toe with me) Loves to travel and is adventurous: likes trying new foods, seeing new places, always learning Someone who's a go getter, has strong opinions, we have compatible morals and worldviews, he speaks his mind, he isn't a follower, isn't fickle or shallow. Someone I'm very sexually attracted to who has a similar sex drive to mine, I would not want to date someone with a low sex drive. Someone affectionate. I NEED this! That's one of my love languages: being touched, hugged, kissed, cuddled, and not just as foreplay before sex And moreover: someone who understands me, who respects me, supports me, appreciates me, who wants me as much as I want him, who it's easy to get along with, where we can be bestfriends as well as romantic partners. Physically I can be attracted to a range of looks so the only requirement is taller than me and nice smile. But no other specifics physically. Edited January 23, 2014 by MissBee
regine_phalange Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 1) Dignified and decent. That means he respects himself and others. Doesnt do things behind people's backs. He is fair. He has good manners. He earns his life honorably. He keeps his word. Good hygiene, doesn't let himself go, basic cleaning after himself. 2) Sense of humour. It can keep me around for very long. Once I was second guessing breaking up with someone because he had such an amazing sense of humour (we were incompatible though). If he laughs (lovingly) with my goofiness I feel loved. If he can see a funny detail in times of stress, I know that together, we are going to get over many storms. 3) Practical. I have had my share of emotional men. Not for me (I am emotional enough for both:P). When we have a problem, I want him to tell me "okay, let's find a solution", instead of sentimental bull*hit or sweeping things under the rug. If he knows how to fix sinks/lightbulbs/etc extra points (but not essential). 4) Sexy. Having wet dreams with him and such. Sensual. To feel adored like a goddess when he touches me. Eager to explore and remember my buttons. 5) Communicative. Not necessarily talkative. Knowing that he will take what I say into account, and even make questions in order to understand me better. Expressing himself so I'm able to understand him better. Honest but tactful. 6) Family oriented. I want someone who likes spending time with his family. Valuing family.
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