songbyrd Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I was looking through my own instagram photos when I clicked on my ex's comment that he left me when we were still together. It brought me to his instagram and he just made it public!!! It was private before. I only saw his first 3. pix and one of them was a pic of him kissing his rebound on the forehead while they were at a club!! Oh my freakin heart!!!!!! Let me just tell u that I havw been NC for 16 days now and hes been trying to contact me nonstop. He was even texting me today but I would not reply! Now I see that he made his instagram public ON PURSPOSE as a way to get back at me for ignoring him. He has been desperately seeking a reaction from me but I refuse to give him one! I think he wants me to admit how hurt I am so that he can try to come back. I know he's not really happy with this girl because she lives with her baby daddy!! The whole situation is just absurd. I just need words of comfort right now
Ordinaryday Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I was looking through my own instagram photos when I clicked on my ex's comment that he left me when we were still together. It brought me to his instagram and he just made it public!!! It was private before. I only saw his first 3. pix and one of them was a pic of him kissing his rebound on the forehead while they were at a club!! Oh my freakin heart!!!!!! Let me just tell u that I havw been NC for 16 days now and hes been trying to contact me nonstop. He was even texting me today but I would not reply! Now I see that he made his instagram public ON PURSPOSE as a way to get back at me for ignoring him. He has been desperately seeking a reaction from me but I refuse to give him one! I think he wants me to admit how hurt I am so that he can try to come back. I know he's not really happy with this girl because she lives with her baby daddy!! The whole situation is just absurd. I just need words of comfort right now that's why everyone on here advises you to completely block your ex on all social media. even if you think, or have deluded yourself into believing, that you are over them, seeing them on social media can set you back. a photo, a meaningless comment, anything and you are back to day one of being dumped. I had convinced myself my ex was dead, seriously, I thought she was. and just last night I saw her in the street walking hand in hand with her new bf, doing things with him that she used to do with me. It was like being stabbed in the heart, and it set me back to square one. 100% NC all the way, there is nothing else you can do. 1
Author songbyrd Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 that's why everyone on here advises you to completely block your ex on all social media. even if you think, or have deluded yourself into believing, that you are over them, seeing them on social media can set you back. a photo, a meaningless comment, anything and you are back to day one of being dumped. I had convinced myself my ex was dead, seriously, I thought she was. and just last night I saw her in the street walking hand in hand with her new bf, doing things with him that she used to do with me. It was like being stabbed in the heart, and it set me back to square one. 100% NC all the way, there is nothing else you can do. Blocking someone on instagram does not disable u from seeing them. It only disables them from seeing u. I do not intentionally look for him. But now that this happened, I deleted the app altogether so that I cannot use my own account. 1
Haydn Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Have a break from Social media. Trust me i looked once to often in the early days...... Blocking someone on instagram does not disable u from seeing them. It only disables them from seeing u. I do not intentionally look for him. But now that this happened, I deleted the app altogether so that I cannot use my own account.
ithappenedagain Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 One piece of advice I have learned from my last major heartbreak - which I have carried over to my current heartbreak is to TOTALLY BLOCK OR REMOVE YOURSELF FROM SOCIAL MEDIA! Even the smallest of things such as seeing a post he/she is tagged in, a picture on instagram, etc etc can be a trigger that will set you back. It is not healthy for you.
Zahara Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Remove yourself from social media, at least for a few months. You will live. Infact you'll proceed through the healing process much faster versus hitting speedbumps along the way and falling back because you're prioritizing the importance of Instagram, FB, etc. over your healing. No excuses.
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