nicole9758 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I just want everyone's opinion about this because I think it'd be interesting At the start, they seemed so perfect. Let's say, your are in love with this person you are in a relationship with. Although they have hurt you from the past to be with someone else but that plan didn't work out for them so they came running back to you and ofcourse, because you love them you took them back. But he hasn't been the same ever since, eg. more distant, less attentive, dismisses your feelings/concerns etc. Pretty much the bad outweighs the good. Their family also doesn't approve of you and would rather have them date someone else because they think that their son/daughter could do better. You are a shy person and they don't like that so they want you to change eg. be more outgoing like they are etc. Now let's say that this person is very successful, making a 6 figure salary. ALWAYS busy. Very smart. Despite all the negatives, would you stay with them for this reason? Even if they wanted you to change into someone else. Even if the family doesn't approve you and he doesn't seem to stand up for you. Even if he has left you for someone else in the past. Even if you are mostly depressed in the relationship (although have a few good times). My question is: Would you choose to stay in this relationship based on how successful he is (and because you are deeply in love with them)? Because you're scared you might not find anyone like him. Even though it seems as if you love them more than they love you? Even if you are putting more effort in the relationship? (I'm asking this as my friend is in this situation) Do you think this relationship would work out at the end? Even if his family would never seem to accept you? would this cause problems too?
TXGuy Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 It sounds like this guy's salary is the only thing in the "pro" column. Everything else was in the "con" column. The chances of this relationship working out so she can get her hands on the salary is pretty low. I would advise her against continuing the relationship. She should be able to find someone that cares for her. That is more important than what the guy makes. 4
d0nnivain Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 If money is that important to you, instead of wasting your time & energy on some relationship go out & do something that will earn you that kind of money. A relationship shouldn't be THAT much of a compromise. . . . he's so awful & doesn't give a lot of love but I'll stay because he makes decent money & I'll never get anybody better anyway. How do you know you won't get somebody who loves you unless you go try?
oldshirt Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 There's a name for women who screw men for money, hmmmm let me see if I can think of it??? 1
Philosoraptor Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 There's a name for women who screw men for money, hmmmm let me see if I can think of it??? Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger... But she ain't messin' with no broke... 3
Frank2thepoint Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Even if the girl in this scenario were to choose to keep the guy around, just because of his high salary, since the guy has already left for another girl (and therefore not preventing him from doing it again), the guy is distant, less caring, therefore he wouldn't even spend much of his money on the girl in the first place. The girl would be deluded to think she would benefit even materialistically from the relationship. 1
Hopeful30 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 You're basically asking if it's okay to stay with a man who doesn't want you just because he has money. I wouldn't, but the fact that you're asking tells me you're seriously considering it. I suppose now all you can do is ask yourself what would make you happier, a 6-figure salary or being treated well and loved? 1
soccerrprp Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 No. Both people are dysfunctional, especially the one who makes excuses for the one making the money. NO NO NO. I want to be happy and since money is not so important that 6-figures impresses much at all, I would dump his a$$ and tell him to find someone else to treat like crap. Anyone who chooses a 6-figure salary over being happy, treated respectfully and loved is in SERIOUS need of counseling.
Phantom888 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 He left you for someone else. He can't be trusted. 6-figure salary isn't all that uncommon for someone who is educated and has experience in his career. My point is that there are plenty of successful dudes out there who can be good to you, and be everything that you want in a man. This guy can't be trusted, and you can do better. Don't settle. My GF and I both make 6-figures, and in the grand scheme of things, our current income was not the most important factor in finding our perfect partner. We wanted someone whom we can spend our life with, and completely trust and love. 2
oldshirt Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 There was this guy at a big fancy banquet one time and he approached this nice looking lady and started making pleasantries. After awhile he matter of factly said that he he found her very alluring and attractive and asked her if she would go to bed with him for a million dollars to which she said yes. He then stated that unfortunately he didn't have a million dollars ask asked if she'd do it for $5 instead. She became quite indignant and said, "of course not! What do you think I am??" To which he replied, " well, we've already established 'what' you are. Now it's just a matter of negotiating a price." I think the same thing applies here. If someone is going to be with someone they don't love and who does not treat them well for money. Then it's simply a matter of negotiating a price. 2
FitChick Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 He is most likely only interested in sex. At least make him buy expensive gifts and take you to nice places before dumping you.
soccerrprp Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 He is most likely only interested in sex. At least make him buy expensive gifts and take you to nice places before dumping you. FitChick, I'm surprised at you!
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