Roses777 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 (edited) Hi guys, My Bipolar II ex-girlfriend broke up with me at the end of last year, stating that she felt we were too different to my father and that she wanted to be alone (December 15th). Since then she has immediately gone on a dating website and looked for casual dating/no commitment, whatever that means. I happened to see her near her place on the 5th of January and she was very angry to see me, saying that I would never see her again, that she had no more feelings for me and isn't attracted to me anymore. She also said that she has already moved on, even though when I cried, you could see that she was crying a little too. She somehow claimed that she was happier without me... Didn't seem that way to me. We have split up many times before and she said she no longer wants me in her life "AT ALL". I have been blocked from her phone, from Facebook, etc. She seems very hurt even though I apologized for the mutual exchange of mean words. Is she in the anger phrase still and still has feelings? I have never contacted her at all since the day that she was angry. Someone said something about dumpers regretting their decision 2 months later..? Edited January 22, 2014 by Roses777
flightplan Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 You're reaching. She's moved on but you haven't. If she want's to be with you, she'll let you know. It doesn't sound like she regrets anything. It appears you're the only one hanging on. You know you're situation better than anyone on this board, but going by what you wrote... her train has left the station and you're not on it.
TaraMaiden Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Is she on medication under supervision, and does she take her meds properly?
Author Roses777 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 She is off her meds from what I can tell. Everytime she has gone off of her medication she has dumped me within weeks. We had a very on-off relationship. She told me in November (?) that she felt that she was cured and no longer needed medication and then I knew what was going to happen eventually...
TaraMaiden Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 THis is the problem with some mentally ill people. They take their meds. They feel better. They come off their meds, because they believe themselves 'cured' to a sufficient level as to not need them any more Their mental health plummets. They go through a low, erratic period when their temperament fluctuates wildly. So: They take their meds. They feel better. They come off their meds, because they believe themselves 'cured' to a sufficient level as to not need them any more Their mental health plummets. They go through a low, erratic period when their temperament fluctuates wildly. So: They take their meds. They feel better. They come off their meds, because they believe themselves 'cured' to a sufficient level as to not need them any more Their mental health plummets. They go through a low, erratic period when their temperament fluctuates wildly. So on and so forth. And you are also to be held responsible. You really have to quit playing into this cycle. Step back, move on and consider this over, once and for all, otherwise you play into the drama, and she will never find a constant.....
Author Roses777 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 I know that she is exercising now, so I hope she's okay. She is trying to finish school so that must be stressing her out a lot too. I tried to get her on meds but she hated me suggesting anything to her. Now at least she is going to the gym and (presumably) eating better. I am just leaving her alone. That is what she wanted and she can unblock me from Facebook if she really wanted to. I want to move on but I've never been in a 4+ year relationship before and it's tough.
TXGuy Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Move on. Look at it as if she did you a favor. From your description, she sounds pretty screwed up. You are better off without her. Give yourself some time and then try to find a more appropriate relationship. I know you have 4 years in, but its better to leave now than when you have 10 years in. Assuming you don't have a kid with her, you dodged a bullet. Imagine what a nightmare that would be. Another way to look at it is she made it clear she wants you to leave her alone. Don't be a stalker.
Author Roses777 Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 Yes, I am leaving her alone. It is better not to know whatever she is doing than to always wonder and waste time. Thanks everyone.
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