firefly2613 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 ...because she met him a month before our break up. Progressively started spending more and more time with him. Became cold and indifferent after breaking up with me, but day of the breakup sobbed and begged me to hate her, yet swore she was not leaving me for another man. In short, after only three months she married the man she cheated on me with. I'm doing okay these days but now it all makes sense. How do you get over something like that?
Mrlonelyone Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I wish I could tell you how to get over that. Being left for someone else hurts. Having them marry the next person kinda sucks. All i can say is that .... All that glitters is not gold. They could be married and going through the motions. A marriage can be the greatest mistake of your life, or the start of something wonderful. Further, you don't know that you and her would have been happy had he not showed up. Take what happened and just say to yourself. It is for the best. You found out early that she wasn't "the one" or one of the ones for you. Somewhere there is likely a woman working her way towards you who will make this ex look like a sad funny joke in the story of your life.
Author firefly2613 Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 You're right. It's just crazy. No one tells you that one day things can be great and the next bam they're married to someone else. It's a life lesson you can learn no other way I guess.
fixing Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Hey man. Hang in there. Im 14 months BC since i caught my hoe cheating on and off throughout the 15 months we shared. (Not as long as you ofc) I can tell you, that betrayal, takes, a long, long time to get over. Its the ultimate sin. But the good news is, you will learn from this and be much stronger. You will guard your heart more closely with the next partner you meet. You will also pay more attention to any red flags that you missed before. (I certainly will) I can say now, that i am almost over the cheating. I still have residual feelings of hurt when i think about the act. But god willing, i shall be well over it very soon! Do not agonise over the 'ifs, whys, how, when, what? Just think the worst case scenario and draw a line under it. She cheated on you. She's a bitch. Its NOT your fault. But please dont go wasting a year like i have going over and over and over. Draw a line under the whole affair and force yourself to be active. Your better off without that tramp.
iworthmore Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 nice words fixing. im sure u r a strong man. you will meet the woman who deserve you. for the OP. mate im exactly at the same boat. she had that "friend", close one. always said they only friend's. and now they are together. i gave all i had to make the RS work. she was just playing. like another reply said. its better early than too late. such ppl r like cancer, the more you have them the bigger they can hurt you. you must get rid of them asap. im not in love with that bitch anymore, i just feel angry about how stupid i was, ignored all the red flags cuz i loved her. lol funny ( i mean it) think of it this way, she was a tumor, its good things ended back then, the more u spend time with her the harder u will get over her. and now u know the truth abt her. she was worthless. there is something special about each one of us. lets grow our beards and keep our chin up. she's just another woman, and u still the same man u are. same things for you betrayed ladies, he's an *******. not man enough for you. cheerz from london
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