SYLLPalmer Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 (edited) Oh I agree. OLD isn't for me, it's a numbers game and essentially that's not how I prefer to conduct my dating life. I meet enough men in real life thank god, the only time I had to resort to OLD was when I had to be careful with money and I wasn't out and about all that much. Meeting through interests/social circles is a million times better. Here I do agree about taking your time. It beats me though how people can compare getting to know someone in real life slowly to online slowly. The internet is really no substitute for normal human interaction. It's really bizarre that anyone would think that. In my opinion anyway. This from a women who manages to post 12,487 times in a 3 year time span? Something just does not compute. Edited January 24, 2014 by SYLLPalmer 2
BeholdtheMan Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I said "Why don't you have any clothes on?" he said he couldn't afford to get a new coat. Legend of the game right here
lino Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 Reading this and the past online dating discussions here just make me realise I have been wise in not using it. Poor guy being told something like that. I'd be dying to shake the hand of someone who told me the same. 1
Leigh 87 Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 A was telling me that she went on a first date with a guy who drunk a bottle of vodka, didn't have a car and needed to be picked up, he had the girl pay for their outing, and then he bashed her best friend who was present because he was gay. Your date was not all that bad. You just didn't click with someone.. he isn't some low life.. He talked about not affording a jacket; bad social skills. It isn't classy to tell people on a first date of your financial woes. However, he wasn't a creep or a bad person by the sounds of things. I wouldn't have told him that I had no intention of seeing him again.. I would have just wished him well and declined a second date if he had asked (which he probably wouldn't have asked you, as he didn't sound really into you anyway). 2
PegNosePete Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 A was telling me that she went on a first date with a guy who drunk a bottle of vodka, didn't have a car and needed to be picked up, he had the girl pay for their outing, and then he bashed her best friend who was present because he was gay. Why was her best friend present on a first date? That is just weird.
Author mortensorchid Posted January 24, 2014 Author Posted January 24, 2014 The reason I told him what I did ("You seem like a good guy", "I doubt we will be speaking again after today", etc.) is because of past experiences I have had, both in the real and OLD worlds. Once I did not say the "you seem like a good guy" phrase to someone and he said "Oh no ... What's wrong with me?" I said there wasn't anything wrong with him, I just felt that we were not a good match. Since then I decided that I would add that in order to drive my point home and not hurting someone's feelings. Secondly, remember that this person is a stranger, you simply do not know this person even though you think you do. You have no idea how crazy they may or may not be, and that person could respond to you with violence and/or anger. Think it doesn't happen? Well you keep on saying that. You have to be very careful with others. I could tell this guy was a bit off the beam when he came in without a coat on when it was barely 10 degrees out, but over time with his behavior if I did not handle him a bit more carefully than the average he might be a bit crazy. Third, some people are clueless when it comes to social situations. Notice I did not say "stupid" or "dumb", that is insensitive and rude. You just NEVER KNOW with people. Once, years ago, I had arranged to go out on an OLD with someone, we had agreed to meet at a time/place. Long story short, he did not have a cell phone nor GPS, nor did he have the correct address of the place where we were going, nor when he called me multiple times from some payphone somewhere (of which I have no idea how or why he was able to retain what my phone number was since he had no maps, pens, nor paper with him as far as I know) asking me not to leave the restaurant and would not accept my offers to stand outside and wave him down. A month later he called an apologized to me, and said that he decided to catch up with technology and bought a cell phone. He also kept calling me for MONTHS, sometimes from up to 10 different numbers at a time and never leaving a voice mail message. I NEVER ONCE returned any of his calls. Finally one day I picked up and said "Please don't call me anymore." He said "What did I do?" and I hung up. Never heard a word from him again. I plan to follow this protocol for every other bad OLD or real life one that I have, it's the best way to go. 2
gaius Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 This from a women who manages to post 12,487 times in a 3 year time span? Something just does not compute. Most of those were in the offtopic thread, or are correcting me about vegtables. Neither of which take very long to post. You could wrack up 50 posts a day in short order in that old off topic thread.
MidwestUSA Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 This from a women who manages to post 12,487 times in a 3 year time span? Something just does not compute. Many of us are here to offer advice/support to others, or use the more social aspects of the site. A high post count doesn't necessarily imply someone has problems, with dating or anything else.
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