halflight Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Hi, this is my first post. I really like what I’ve seen of the forums so far, as the users seem more intelligent and grown up than on a lot of other dating advice sites I’ve checked out. I guess my “problem” is that I’ve been going to yoga classes at my gym for the past two months, and I’ve developed a bit of a crush on my instructor. It should be noted that I’m very rusty at flirting. I tend to go from long-term relationship to long-term relationship, so my dating skills are rusty, too. I dunno, I just feel so out of the loop with guys and flirting. I’ve been single for about 5 months, and haven’t done a lot of dating in that time. I honestly don’t know anymore when a guy is interested in me, or just being nice. So bottom line, my question is how do I show an interest in him without embarrassing myself? I’m good company, I’m funny and smart, but I tend to be pretty quiet in a group setting like these classes, and small talk isn’t my strongest trait. Especially if I decide I like the guy. I get tongue-tied.
Philosoraptor Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Ask him out, simple as that. You've got nothing to lose but a few minutes of your time... and you'll lose more time trying to subtlety get your point across.
Dallers Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 This kind of thing is really above my pay grade to understand when it comes to ladies and asking guys out. I see it day to day I can tell that at least 3 people I meet during my day like me even one I walk past on the way to work but none of them ever approach me. The time of the of the man always having to make the move are long since gone and as woman have been fighting for equal rights for a long time and finally equality is here then you are our equal so act like it, do not expect the man to make the move as if he hasn't already he won't. I am not into any of the girls I see day to day and as lovely as they are and that I may in fact say yes if they asked me out I will not ask as I am not looking for a girlfriend. He might be in exactly the same boat, and if you think girls like getting asked out and the attention do not think it is any different for a guy I would be flattered to be asked out by any girl and would let you down gently or in fact go for a coffee just for the hell of it. You don't need to flirt or win a battle just start talking about how you like his classes and as soon as the conversation has warmed ask him out.
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