Finding the perfect revenge for your Ex. Make them realize they made a mistake

[Ordinaryday]

sounds cute and all that, but if you are in 100% NC, as you should be, even if she does realise she made a mistake... precisely how will you ever find out?

[Kevin_D]

I too have gone through the mentality of seeking revenge. "Oh, ill show her!" "ill start going to the gym, get buff and she'll see what she missed out on". Never go through that mentality. Do work out, go out, do new things, but do them solely for yourself and not her. One of the worst things feelings you can have is doing all these things to try to one-up her and impress her, and at the end of the day she doesn't even care. Do these things to make yourself happy, not to impress her or to seek revenge.

 

I see your point, but I don't agree really. Many dumpee's have trouble getting out of their bed. If revenge can motivate them to hit the gym, flirt with new girls and so on, it might actually help the healing process.

 

After a while, you'll get attention from other hot girls and suddenly it WILL become about you instead of her.

 

I think what's really important is that you don't set a deadline. Don't make plans like "I'm going to get in shape and get confident, and then I'm gonna meet up with her and show her how good-looking I have become" because you will be disappointed. But to use her as some fuel doesn't have to be wrong.

[conmorse]

I see your point, but I don't agree really. Many dumpee's have trouble getting out of their bed. If revenge can motivate them to hit the gym, flirt with new girls and so on, it might actually help the healing process.

 

After a while, you'll get attention from other hot girls and suddenly it WILL become about you instead of her.

 

I think what's really important is that you don't set a deadline. Don't make plans like "I'm going to get in shape and get confident, and then I'm gonna meet up with her and show her how good-looking I have become" because you will be disappointed. But to use her as some fuel doesn't have to be wrong.

 

You and I basically said the said thing. He can go ahead and use the revenge mentality of "showing her" to get the ball moving, but he shouldn't do all these things in the future just because of her, he should be doing these things to better himself.

[keepontruckin]

The perfect revenge is this...

 

Let them go to hell, and do well for yourself.

 

You are now number one. Invest all of your time, love and money into you, and only you.

 

The revenge will come in time... My wife is broke, living in a *****hole, lonely, and will most likely end up homeless and have to move back home.

 

Myself? Just bought a brand new place, my Blackberry shares jumped 75% in the last month, and I found a better job.

 

This is how you do it. And if they come back? You tell them to go to hell. They ONLY come back if they need something short term. Users they are. Let them find out on their own what life is all about...

[LLQ1986]

Yeap I agree, the best revenge is to better yourself and move on without your ex. I've been on NC for a week now, I must admit it does get better, I will still think about us but it wasn't as bitter before.

 

Just days ago, my ex's friends texted me and asked how was I doing, I told them: never been better.

 

I keep reminding myself that it's his loss for giving us up.

 

Love this quote that says,'Don't ever feel sad for someone who gave up on you. Instead feel sad for them that they gave up on someone that would never given up on them.'

 

[Eternal Sunshine]

Ignore her completely and go on with your life. That's the best revenge there is.