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Finding the perfect revenge for your Ex. Make them realize they made a mistake

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I must say that with my break up after being together for 8 1/2 years with my girlfriend, I almost hit rock bottom because it came out of nowhere (a perfect example of GIGS ). A question that keeps coming to my mind is how do I come out on top and show the EX that they made a big mistake. What are the things that I should do to rub it in once the ocean settles down:) We are still friends on Facebook. What would you do?

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mantlefan Established Member

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I prefer to give advice, rather than give people reality checks.

 

 

I know you are angry. I am at my ex too.

 

 

But you need a reality check here. Your attitude is all wrong. You should be living your life as if you don't care about her thoughts at all. Pretty soon, that will be true. Don't make yourself a slave to the anger and revenge. Focus on doing what you need to do to turn your ex into just another person wandering the planet. That's how you will be healed of your ex, not by getting revenge.

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I prefer to give advice, rather than give people reality checks.

 

 

I know you are angry. I am at my ex too.

 

 

But you need a reality check here. Your attitude is all wrong. You should be living your life as if you don't care about her thoughts at all. Pretty soon, that will be true. Don't make yourself a slave to the anger and revenge. Focus on doing what you need to do to turn your ex into just another person wandering the planet. That's how you will be healed of your ex, not by getting revenge.

 

Very good point...I like that thought:)

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Perfect revenge? Such an oxymoron.

 

Best thing to do is just move on. Don't give her the satisfaction knowing that it bothers you.

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the perfect revenge is to live a happy life even without them. one that's without hate, anger or the constant need to "win" the breakup.

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I prefer to give advice, rather than give people reality checks.

 

 

I know you are angry. I am at my ex too.

 

 

But you need a reality check here. Your attitude is all wrong. You should be living your life as if you don't care about her thoughts at all. Pretty soon, that will be true. Don't make yourself a slave to the anger and revenge. Focus on doing what you need to do to turn your ex into just another person wandering the planet. That's how you will be healed of your ex, not by getting revenge.

 

^^^This.

 

The only thing seeking revenge against an ex is going to do is confirm that they made the right choice - -not the wrong one.

 

Anger is a normal healthy part of the healing process but revenge is not.

 

Seeking revenge says more about you than it does about her. Not to mention any gratification you may get from it, will be short-lived and not at all worth it.

 

Just focus on making yourself happy and yes --as another poster said: get rid of her on your facebook.

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The reality is, you don't want revenge. Why stoop to their level? Honestly like everyone has said here, the best thing to do is love yourself and live your life to the fullest without them. If they see you happy and well off, they will probably rethink or reevaluate you as the person they were with. Albeit a bit late, you will certainly have more pride and if you actually love this person immensely, and are able to let go of them dumping you, you'll actually have more of a chance to get them back. If you try to make them jealous, it can be obvious and they will be even more turned away. The goal is not to get even, it's to get independent and invulnerable to the debilitating vice of others.

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Go bark at her

 

)example) ruff ruff grrrrr ruff ruff grrrrr.

 

Then pee on a tree and that is your revenge.

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I must say that with my break up after being together for 8 1/2 years with my girlfriend, I almost hit rock bottom because it came out of nowhere (a perfect example of GIGS ). A question that keeps coming to my mind is how do I come out on top and show the EX that they made a big mistake. What are the things that I should do to rub it in once the ocean settles down:) We are still friends on Facebook. What would you do?

 

I cringed when I read the subject of this one, then read your post. Please, walk away form this one, be the bigger person, consider yourself lucky it's over.

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Why do you want to come on top, just let it be, it is what it is.

 

Be happy and successful that's your revenge.

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Step 1: Switch to hardcore No Contact.

 

Step 1b: delete her from facebook.

 

Step 2: dont worry about anything else except yourself.

 

Sounds like she is in your head still. Until she gets out of your head, she will be the ultimate winner. The best way to get 'revenge' is to remove her from your head.

 

As others have noted- the best way to do this is to focus on yourself. Fall back in love with you.

 

I know it's easier said than done, as I am also trying to get my ex out of my head, but the only way you can physically achieve that is to keep the focus on you YOU YOU YOU!!!

 

Hang in there bro. We got your back.

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Best revenge is to lead a damn good life.

 

Curiosity killed the cat and sooner or later, they might snoop on you to see what you've been up to since they dumped you. I've heard of Ex's logging onto other peoples Facebook account to see what you're up to.

 

It would be nice if the could see pics and say to themselves, "Wait...is that him climbing a mountain? Is that him in the Bahamas? Is he standing on The Great Wall of China? Is that a pic of him and Big Ben? Is that him scuba diving? Is that him running a marathon?" Makes them jealous that you're doing all of these fun things while they still "trying to find themselves".

 

There was a guy on here that took the "make life an adventure" to heart and his Ex found out he went back packing through Europe and went to Thailand for a month. She said to him the next time she saw him, "How come you didn't want to do these things when we were together?" He pretty much shrugged and told her that he had to find a life without her in it and then walked off.

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Yeah man. Show that you can be happy without her. Work on your talents and social skills. Get in better shape. Date new hot girls.

 

Trust me, when she finds out that you have become really successful and have a hot chick by your side, she will hurt. But when that happens, you won't even care about what she thinks.

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If you seek revenge on her, and attempt to live your life with the sole purpose of one-upping her, she will come out on top by default.

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I too have gone through the mentality of seeking revenge. "Oh, ill show her!" "ill start going to the gym, get buff and she'll see what she missed out on". Never go through that mentality. Do work out, go out, do new things, but do them solely for yourself and not her. One of the worst things feelings you can have is doing all these things to try to one-up her and impress her, and at the end of the day she doesn't even care. Do these things to make yourself happy, not to impress her or to seek revenge.

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When I was in my relationship, I was setting her up so that she'd be more affected by the break-up if she were to ever break up with me. However, the things that I did actually turned against me. In the end, the only thing that you get when trying to manipulate someone is more pain on your end. If she knows you well enough, she'd probably make a prediction that you were going to try and get revenge. My ex-girlfriend knows that I can be a very manipulative person, that I have a way with words, so she probably wouldn't have been very surprised at some kind of retaliation. Also, my ex-girlfriend has been through a tough break-up before, so she knows what it's like to feel betrayed and things like that. If you want to make an impression, you don't do anything. You strictly follow that NC rule. Burn your bridges. Make sure that she can't find out a single thing about how you're doing or anything like that. When you drop off the face of the Earth and perhaps, one day, she thinks..."huh...I wonder what how that guy is doing these days," and she finds out that your Facebook has been disabled, you've dropped off the face of the Earth, and she's got no way of knowing how you're doing. But if you move on with your life, get rid of any way of her knowing about how you're doing, then MAYBE...MAYBE she'll REALLY try to find out about your life, and she'll find out that you're doing much better than she anticipated. Only THEN can you have got revenge. The thing about it is that once you focus on yourself, move on with your life, find a new woman, etc...you'll no longer be concerned about revenge. Essentially, the only time you'll get revenge is when you don't care about the revenge. However, if you try to get revenge by doing certain things because OF HER, it probably won't work out like you want it to. In the end, you may get your revenge if you try...but it'll be the cost of your sanity. She's already broke you enough as it is; do you really want her to break you even more? More importantly, are you REALLY willing to let ONE woman continue to break you even when she's no longer a part of your life? The sooner you realize that she's got no control over your life anymore, the better off you're going to be.

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You don't come out on top by trying to plot how to live your life so they will live with future regret.

 

It is a waste of time and it just keeps you attached and focused on them.

 

Who cares about their opinion?

 

I don't respect how my ex treated me with this break up. I don't need or want or give a damn what he thinks anymore.

 

Every time we think about our life and our actions in the framework of our ex, we relinquish our own power.

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I'm reminded of a quote made by our buddy Richard Sherman of my Seattle Seahawks: "A lion doesn't worry about the opinion of a sheep" :D

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Nice one mate. Shame you guys dont like football or as you call it soccer. But if ever you do then Chelsea is the team for you i think. 2nd richest club in the world and possibly the best colours! Not a hooligan in sight these days. I tired so hard to understand american football but its rugby in fancy dress.

 

I'm reminded of a quote made by our buddy Richard Sherman of my Seattle Seahawks: "A lion doesn't worry about the opinion of a sheep" :D
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If you seek revenge on her, and attempt to live your life with the sole purpose of one-upping her, she will come out on top by default.

 

 

You're right, but I wouldn't put it that way. There's nothing wrong with making positive changes in you life to GIVE YOURSELF a full and adventurous future. You do things for you.

 

to give a personal example, my Ex said I was lazy and a loser and never going to amount to anything. I wanted my revenge and to prove her wrong. "I'll show her!" I got into a university to prove that I wasn't a loser. I did well in school also with that same mentality. But, after a year, it wasn't about her anymore. My eyes were opened. I was the one studying, I was the one writing the papers and I was the one taking the tests; not her! At that point, it became about me and my future. And that was a future without my Ex.

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You're right, but I wouldn't put it that way. There's nothing wrong with making positive changes in you life to GIVE YOURSELF a full and adventurous future. You do things for you.

 

to give a personal example, my Ex said I was lazy and a loser and never going to amount to anything. I wanted my revenge and to prove her wrong. "I'll show her!" I got into a university to prove that I wasn't a loser. I did well in school also with that same mentality. But, after a year, it wasn't about her anymore. My eyes were opened. I was the one studying, I was the one writing the papers and I was the one taking the tests; not her! At that point, it became about me and my future. And that was a future without my Ex.

 

I agree, I thought that didn't need specifying. Look after yourself, be kind to yourself, make improvements to benefit yourself. If your sole reason is to one-up over an ex, you're in for a rude shock.

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Best revenge is to move on..

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I must say that with my break up after being together for 8 1/2 years with my girlfriend, I almost hit rock bottom because it came out of nowhere (a perfect example of GIGS ). A question that keeps coming to my mind is how do I come out on top and show the EX that they made a big mistake. What are the things that I should do to rub it in once the ocean settles down:) We are still friends on Facebook. What would you do?

 

"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves"

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I should think the only revenge you can give is to cut all contact and never look back. It has to give their self esteem a low blow when they come to think 'wtf!? I dumped him, isnt he like? Supposed to be chasing me now? Omg, so i meant NOTHING to him!'

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