ImThinkingWTF Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Met a guy three years ago, we started seeing each other but I broke it off due to distance. We remained friends. Over the past 5 months we have been seeing each other frequently and have developed feelings for each other so we had the talk and decided to be exclusive. A couple of months ago before we had the exclusive talk I was visiting him (he lives two hours away) and we went out to the bar. Some friends of his showed up and he introduced me to everyone. Later that night we were all standing outside and two girls come walking up and both are pretty happy to see him, hugs were given and the girls go on their way. No introductions, although it was a little awkward it fine because they weren't staying anyway. But over the past couple of months I've noticed he likes every single picture one of the girls posts on facebook. That in itself doesn't bother me but in combination with other things it sets off an alarm. A few nights ago I was visiting him again and the girl comes into the bar runs up to him and hugs him. He makes no introduction yet again. This time it really pisses me off because it made me feel like there was something going on. So I ask him and he admits that Shes someone that he had a flirtation with but nothing sexual has ever happened. And he didn't introduce me because he didn't want her to feel uncomfortable. Now I'm seriously questioning if he's as committed to me as I am to him. I feel like he put her feelings before mine. She lives there, I dont. So if he didn't mention me when I was sitting RIGHT THERE he's sure as hell not going to when I'm two hours away. He apologized, he felt really bad about the whole thing. Deleted her from all social media. Says he doesn't want to lose me and he will do anything to make our relationship work. But I have an uneasy feeling and I really dont know what to do. Am I just overreacting? Now I'm feeling like
Philosoraptor Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Yes, you are over reacting. He wasn't in the best light to not introduce you, but he immediately cut ties with her and obviously picked you over her. 1
Zelias Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 And he didn't introduce me because he didn't want her to feel uncomfortable.Did he ever think how it made you uncomfortable? I guess not He did it twice, remember that When you first met this guy, you should of asked him if he had any past ex contacts, looks like he did. At this point, you should of told him, "when the ex's are out of your life, contact me then." A guy who has contact with any ex of his is not a good bf in the long run. He liked every single picture of her according to you, that's not a good sign, is it now? So he decided to block her on facebook? what about cell phone? or home phone? what if he is meeting with her without telling you? Just because he deleted her off of facebook doesn't mean he can't find another way to get in contact with her......my best advice to you would be, "watch your back" if you find out he has been seeing her some other way, get rid of him, it's not worth it Best of luck to you
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