antineutrino Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 We've been on 4 dates. Each of them went really well (and lasted really long), and we texted everyday inbetween. Monday was the 4th date and I thought it went fantastically. We went back to her place after the main portion of the date. We didn't have sex or anything, but we made out for quite a while and seemed to be getting closer since we started sharing some more personal stuff with each other. It seemed like she was getting more comfortable with me. All my friends think all signals are good, that she's really interested in me. We can be ourselves around each other, can talk for hours, etc. She even said she liked me. But, I texted her yesterday and radio silence. Granted, we were up quite late and she had to wake up early-ish the next morning to go to work. She doesn't communicate at work, so I figured I'd hear back in the early evening like usual. Nothing. Maybe she fell asleep after she got back home because she was exhausted, I don't know... I figured she would have at least responded. Now my anxiety is kicking in quite strong and I'm worrying that something switched in her mind and she's no longer interested... (1) How should I proceed? Should I NOT text her all day and see if she gets back to me? If so, when is it okay to text her again? (2) And what should the next text say if she doesn't get back to me? Should I just be explicit and say that I haven't heard from her in a couple days and am wondering whether everything is okay? Or should I just write something more random (like referencing something we'd do over the weekend)?
PegNosePete Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Stop with the texting. Just give her a call and act like everything is normal and ask her out on another date. You'll soon know what is going on, not only from what she says but from the way she says it, her voice, tone, etc.
Author antineutrino Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 Do you think it's acceptable to call tonight? What would I do if she doesn't pick up? Send a text as a message? We had already planned to go on a date for the weekend.
Philosoraptor Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Spank your monkey so you calm down and get centered. Call her later and have a normal conversation. Don't ask "why didn't you text me back????".
Author antineutrino Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 Is it okay to do that today? Or should I wait until tomorrow so I don't seem so needy?
Philosoraptor Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Is it okay to do that today? Or should I wait until tomorrow so I don't seem so needy? It's your monkey, use it whenever you want. Seriously though... stop playing games with yourself. If you want to call her then call her.
the tank Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Text her today . Maybe she saw the sms , was busy and forget to answer... It happen to me sometimes . If she like you , you can do everything and that would work .
Guitarisgood Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Use all that time you spend obsessing to good and pick up a new hobby or go volunteering. Her not or forgetting to reply is what we call, wait for it, life. Give her a couple of days and then call her for a date or message to get in touch. You may not realise it but distance is good between couples as it allows you to miss eachother rather than clinging to eachothers neck all the time.
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