Heroeric Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Well me and my ex who broke up 4 months ago have broken up 2 times overall. The first time she broke up with me, it was because she started falling for this other guy. Well right afterwards she tried hooking up with him and he turned her down so she begged me to come back to her which I did. This second time to believe it's happened again. And I can't help but wonder, am I just a bad person that she is leaving me for someone else twice? She always and always went on about how much she loved me, and both times were a shocker when they happened. She always said I was perfect for her, and to this day I can't help but wonder...
erklat Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 No. If anyone here is a bad person it's her. She's using you as her doormat because u allow her to. This chick will never justify emotional investment u put in her. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Yeah. Unfortunately, she is just not invested in you but will continue to keep you around while she tries to find someone 'better'. This will happen over and over until she does meet someone better and then she will just disappear forever. As far as all the BS she tells you. Well, learn to judge people by their actions and not their words. Beacuse... people lie. A lot!! Especially in a RS. Get rid of her and find someone who treats you better and won't run off at the first sign of another dude. She's a bullet and you need to dodge her The only thing that might make you a bad person is allowing this to happen to you. Time to man up!!
Chi townD Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Sorry dude, you were a way station until the next "best thing" came along. You deserve better than someone that is constantly on the lookout. Time to move on from her for good! You are not a bad person, you deserve someone that can see that. 1
fixing Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Of course your not a bad person. Dont be silly sir. But, one thing i will say, is you allowed her to dump you for someone else, then you took her back. That should have been the end of the relationship the first time. Now, save your dignity and cut all contact with her. You'll be alright in the end. No contact. Your unique, and a great person, you just got to start believing in yourself.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 her issue. this is a pattern for her I've realized this about my ex as well. Hindsight is 20/20. She's got some issues and patterns of her own, but will never admit/accept it. Instead, she will just make it always someone else's issue... Kind of feel bad for her in a way
Kevin_D Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I've realized this about my ex as well. Hindsight is 20/20. She's got some issues and patterns of her own, but will never admit/accept it. Instead, she will just make it always someone else's issue... Kind of feel bad for her in a way Yep, same here. For example: My ex is in a bad mood. I ask her why and she tells me that she doesn't have enough money to pay her bills. Yes, she bought new clothes for $500 dollars last month. But yet everything is her father's fault. Yes, she lives with him for free, but it's still his fault, because he makes too much noise. You see, she studies at the university, but usually she studies at home. And she can't concentrate when he makes those noises. This makes her fall behind. And since she's fallen behind, she can't possibly work at the same time. So she started to study at my place more frequently, because it "made her calm". A few weeks later, everything was obviously my fault instead, since she dumped me out of the blue and even told me how much happier she is without me. It really fascinates me, but some people have the "skill" to always blame others when things go wrong in their lives.
rosedl Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Someone better.... He is not better. He is new supply. She is most likely addicted to the high of the chemicals of the falling in love phase. She most likely needs someone else to validate her and make her feel good about herself since she can't do it alone. Thus, she left you for him. And, she will leave him for X. And, she will leave X for Y. And, so on. This has NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with you. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Someone better.... He is not better. He is new supply. She is most likely addicted to the high of the chemicals of the falling in love phase. She most likely needs someone else to validate her and make her feel good about herself since she can't do it alone. Thus, she left you for him. And, she will leave him for X. And, she will leave X for Y. And, so on. This has NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with you. Hahahaha!! Are we talking about my ex here? Cause this is exactly her pattern. What bugs me most about it is that I couldn't see it until it was too late. Shame on me for that...
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