Not invited to boyfriends bday dinner?

[clia]

So it's not even on his birthday? Sheesh.

 

Anyway, I'm 22 and he's gonna be 24 and I'm his first girlfriend in 8 years. I guess we're both probably immature about this because I don't know how to go about "putting my foot down." My moms all "he's clueless they're clueless they have no friends or other family and they're just used to eachother" which is true, but I'm not sure if that's enough justification.

 

I don't think you should strong arm your way into the birthday dinner with his family or "put your foot down." If he is too dense to realize that maybe he should ask his parents if you can join them for dinner, then you've got bigger fish to fry. If he hasn't had a girlfriend since he was 16, it may just be an honest oversight on the part of his parents. They may just be used to doing a birthday dinner with the family.

And it isn't even on his birthday, so who cares if he is eating dinner with his parents? If it wasn't his birthday, would you mind then?

 

Maybe it's not a huge deal if they plan anything else, they are only having this so his brother can be involved too but hopefully they have something else planned for his real birthday date?

 

He's 24 years old. I don't see why his parents have to plan something for his birthday day. Honestly, as his girlfriend, I would expect you to be planning something for his birthday day. What do you have planned?

[charlietheginger]

Just go anyways

 

I suggest you wear a wig and glasses and you take a girlfriend with you

sit across from him at the restaurant close enough to hear what's going on but not to close

He might reconize you.....

[eleanorrigby]

I don't have enough details really to totally chime in with an opinion,....<snip>

 

I wouldn't read into this at all. It might be something they've done every year and it's always just them.

 

 

^^^ I agree with this poster. Don't get yourself twisted into knots thinking this means something bad towards you.

[pteromom]

Maybe they have a certain family birthday tradition that they always do together.

 

I wouldn't necessarily read too much into it, but I would definitely talk to him about it.

 

Just ask why, in a calm and non-accusatory way. There may be an explanation.

 

After 6 months, you should be able to talk about something like this.

[Silly Girl924]

Thanks everyone, I think I've figured it out and I'm no longer concerned. Everyone on LoveShack is great

[ExpatInItaly]

Thanks everyone, I think I've figured it out and I'm no longer concerned. Everyone on LoveShack is great

 

So, what happened?

[nomadic_butterfly]

glad she figured it out