Guitarisgood Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I was interested in said girl from work (typical student job nothing career related) but because she was in a relationship, I kept my distance but remained on good terms. She has recently returned from studying overseas in which that time, she became single. I overheard but that she is still in contact with the ex though. Now then, at work I've noticed she has become more physical and flirtatious around me. Admittedly I do flirt and tease a lot and with everyone - not just her. Yet now I am getting compliments and also suggestions of meeting up (her and a coworker want me to teach them to ski as I am an instructor). This on top of mentioning how she has no one to go out to places I frequent with. Obvious the typical reply to the above is to go and ask her out because of how it seems yet I'd like some input here too. The thing is I have been burnt badly in the past when I thought a girl was interested in me AND they were like the above. I have every intention of asking her out yet was it coincidental that when I decided to, the next shift I thought I was seeing her, she was away? Furthermore I am kicking myself because we were working with each other daily throughout the new years as we got closer. Yet I was not interested. Now on the other hand I feel I may have missed the boat or actually, there may not have been a boat altogether but just casual flirting between two people who just get along really well. I don't normally post here because after realising that only I can solve my own problems I started to hold back and instead post and help out others but truthfully ever since I got burnt by the ex, I feel I've built up a wall that I don't even know if I can knock down. Cheers!
d0nnivain Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I was ready to break up with my husband the night of our 3rd date because his signals weren't making any sense to me. After our 1st date I drove straight to a local bar & literally cried on the shoulder of one of my best guy friends because I was convinced that I had blown the date & he didn't like me. I'd gotten limited dinner conversation & a brief hug goodnight but no kiss. Second date I got a hug hello & goodbye but no other physical contact. I think you should ask this girl out I don't see mixed signals. I see you not reading the signals. She is now single. She made sure you knew this & she is flirtatious with you. Go for it.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 No, never. Mixed signals were always bad news.
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