mariposa556 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I know no one here is a mind reader and I feel ridiculous posting this but it's really bothering me. I'm confused and would appreciate some input. So I'll tell my story and if you want to pretend you're this guy and tell me why you didn't contact me, it might help me let this go and I would be really grateful. Here goes - You're 18, I'm 30. We live in a rural area where there isn't much to do or many people to meet under the age of 80. Online dating is not for me. In many ways, I can relate more to younger people than those my own age. I have no kids, have never been married, and really don't have a ton of dating/relationship experience. I'm not particularly anxious to marry or have kids. Despite our age gap, you and I are very attracted to each other and have things in common. You're cute but shy and pretty unsuccessful with girls your age. I find you very mature, smart, funny and kind. You're my brother's best friend so we've been around each other a lot in the past. A couple months ago, we were at my parents' house hanging out with my brother. We had a few drinks and you put your arm around me and eventually kissed me. You spent the night (we didn't sleep together) and the next morning you kissed and held me again but said that you'd like to take things further physically but you didn't want to ruin your friendship with my brother (even though I'm older he is very protective of me with guys). I said I understood. A few weeks later, you came over again (I live next door to my parents' house so I come and go whenever). You flirted with me and complimented me. We kissed after my brother fell asleep and watched a movie we both love. We cuddled and you held my hand. In between reciting the movie lines, we made out off and on but nothing sexual happened aside from brief touching on the outside of our clothes. We've seen each other at my parents' house a few times since. We haven't had any more chances to be alone but every time we see each other you're very attentive towards me. You look at me, you listen to every word I say and go out of your way to talk to me when you can. Fast forward to the weekend before last. We saw each other again and I had butterflies in my stomach. I'm sure you could tell how nervous I was. You were attentive as always, and you waited for the moment when finally no one was nearby us and asked me for my phone number. I was so nervous I couldn't even figure out how to type it into your phone so I had to whisper it for you to type in. I felt silly and embarrassed for being so nervous but really looked forward to hearing from you. I never did. This past weekend you came to my parents' house both Friday and Saturday to hang out with my brother and several other friends. You know you see me almost every time you come over. I avoided you as much as I could this time except briefly Friday when I had no choice, and I caught you staring at me. I thought you could tell that I like you and wanted to hear from you so you had to know I'd be disappointed; I was surprised you didn't avoid coming around at least for a little while. Why did you bother asking for my number?
somedude81 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Because I'm 18 and don't have a clue what the hell I'm doing or want. Want to play Call of Duty? 7
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I'm a dumb 18 year old, who doesn't want a woman?? Idk. Let's kiss and stuffs. 3
Zahara Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 A 30 year old woman that finds it easier to relate to an 18 year old boy. 1
It's Just Me Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 He's unsure, and so very, very young. He may even have spoken to someone about this. Please lower your expectations of him, and move on. There is a VAST maturity chasm between someone who's 18, and someone who's 30. 5
CarrieT Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Because I'm 18 and I'm just now learning how much power my sexuality really is and I have to play around and figure it out for a bit - and that includes toying with you... 1
StanMusial Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I can't wait to tell my brother I got to second base. 3
FitChick Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 He doesn't want your brother to beat the crap out of him. Time to move to a populated area.
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