sportzhl24 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Hello all. I told myself I wouldn't post again until I was healed but the advice I get on here helps and I have been feeling very low today. I had some very bad dreams last night. It has been 6 months since the bu and my ex continues to occupy every thought of mine, every day. Aside from checking some photos about 2 months ago and once a few days ago, I haven't broken NC. She is without a doubt moved on and will most likely never contact me again. I struggle with the stupid, immature mistakes that I made which drove her away. She was quick to abandon me. Although I said some ending words myself (non-insulting) she did not fight for me at all and wrapped things up herself. Like the title says I am very very exhausted. My mind is extremely tired. All I want is to stop thinking of her. I have tried everything. I keep telling myself that maybe I'll get so tired of it that it will all go away, but like I said it has been 6 months. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Klaatu17 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Sorry to hear that...I too am struggling very very hard...I have trouble concentrating on anything...I've been through this before but never as bad as this...I feel like I'm losing my mind...
H245 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I'm in the same position, except only 3 weeks BU. But I am so run down and afraid I will run into her when I leave my place. I've learned venting helps me here and there. But not fully. I wish I had better advice than I know how you feel.
fixing Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Hey man. Remember, this feelings WILL 100% leave, eventually... They burn out. You have set yourself back by looking at her pictures. Thats breaking no contact! Your placing all this energy into a girl who is not giving you a seconds thought. I know thats hard to hear, but let it sink in... You do have control of your mind, your just allowing her to occupy it. She is not worth this mind ****. She didnt bother to even fight for you! Btw, there is NO point in Hindsight here. Thats absolutely pointless questioning your behaviour or things you may have said or done. Forgive yourself. She didnt even bother trying to make it work so **** her 1
Author sportzhl24 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 Sorry to hear that...I too am struggling very very hard...I have trouble concentrating on anything...I've been through this before but never as bad as this...I feel like I'm losing my mind... sorry. I know how it feels. It feels like there is no escape. But there is, somehow. Resilience. Somehow.
Author sportzhl24 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 Hey man. Remember, this feelings WILL 100% leave, eventually... They burn out. You have set yourself back by looking at her pictures. Thats breaking no contact! Your placing all this energy into a girl who is not giving you a seconds thought. I know thats hard to hear, but let it sink in... You do have control of your mind, your just allowing her to occupy it. She is not worth this mind ****. She didnt bother to even fight for you! Btw, there is NO point in Hindsight here. Thats absolutely pointless questioning your behaviour or things you may have said or done. Forgive yourself. She didnt even bother trying to make it work so **** her Thanks fixing. You always have good things to say. She asked for a break/open relationship type thing so a day after I told her we were done. I tried to take it back but she wouldn't have any of it. I know I am ultimately the dumpee but it just kills me that I had something to do with the act of dumping. Maybe she would have stuck around if I had played it cool and hadn't said that s**t. I just want to hold her. 1
Author sportzhl24 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 I'm in the same position, except only 3 weeks BU. But I am so run down and afraid I will run into her when I leave my place. I've learned venting helps me here and there. But not fully. I wish I had better advice than I know how you feel. That's ok. Your breakup is pretty fresh. I think it's very normal to feel the way you do at this point. Just don't be like me, 6 months post bu. It is not healthy
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