KronickImpact Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 (edited) So here's the scoop. I met this girl in September and knew her for 2 weeks. We seemed to click, enjoyed each other's company and liked a lot of the same shows. I then asked her to be my girlfriend. The time we were together was great. Then in October I had to return home to have surgery. We spent nearly 2 and 1/2 months long distance. I came back this past week expecting things to return to normal and even be better, but they're not. I am new to committed relationships and I really feel that I messed up. Hindsight, I probably should've gotten to know her for than two weeks before asking her to be my girlfriend. I then said I loved her and she didn't feel the same. She said she doesn't know me well enough still. To be honest, we never really had a date between the two of us. Like we would spend some time together alone, but never actually going somewhere like a ball game or a movie. It's always been with friends and I really hate myself for that. I basically met this girl, had fun with her going out with friends, then spent the majority of the relationship long distance. I come back expecting to have good quality time between the two of us, but then she says she feels weird. To make matters worse, she's 18 (I'm 21 btw) and a virgin so she's scared of sex. I asked her how many times she's thought about this and she said constantly. She tells me she doesn't know if she can please me and that she feels she's holding me back. So last night, she tells me she needs a break to think and to find herself. Is this relationship too tainted to revive? I truly care for her, her looks and personality are off the charts. Every time I'm with her I'm happy. I feel we can make it work if we just spend time between the two of us. I want her to be comfortable with me and to not worry about sex or whatever. So what do ya'll think? Should I move on? Should I wait, and if so, how long should I give her? Also, she's now friends with my friends and we have our own little group, so if we break up, won't it be more awkward? The thing is I didn't get the impression she wants to break up, just needs a break, but what does that mean? Edited January 22, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
devilish innocent Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 It looks as though you've always liked her more than she's liked you. Basically she hasn't had the feelings of love or lust toward you that a girlfriend would have. She's therefore demoting you to just a friend. She's calling it a "break" to go easy on you and give you some hope that her feelings may still change. They're very unlikely to, though, if they haven't changed yet. I would move on.
Author KronickImpact Posted January 23, 2014 Author Posted January 23, 2014 How long of a wait should I give her? She texted me today and I told her I don't feel like texting not knowing where we stand.
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