Parixx Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Me and my friend were close. He started liking me and then told me he was in love with me. I let myself fall for him as well mainly because I felt like I could trust him since we had such a good friendship. I fell for him hard (thinking about him 24/7. He even started appearing in my dreams, pathetic I know). Then really soon after we started dating officially, he told me his family didn't approve of our relationship because they wanted him to date another girl. He didn't want to go against them and eventually left me for her. I was devastated as you can imagine. Recently, I found out that while he was talking to me he was talking to this other girl. The family story was a lie and he was trying to let me down gently because he in fact had feelings for this new girl in his life. He is dating her. I'm sooooooo upset. I confronted him last night and he gave me excuses which I don't believe. In fact he got very angry and said he would block my number. Somewhere deep down I want him to come back. I feel like I lost to someone else. I have always been cheated on and I have always been faithful in all my relationships. This has really hurt my self confidence. I don't know how to handle this situation. Someone please help me? I've been crying everyday for over a month.
mantlefan Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 F*** him. My ex gf was with me for 5 years and did the same thing. Know that you deserve better than someone who would do that to you. It may seem crazy, but this should BOOST your self confidence, because you know that you deserve better than what you were getting. You can't trust this guy anymore, so cut off all contact. He has no good reason to be in your life. 1
Complexus Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I understand how you feel parixx I was just recently dumped by my gf of 7 years. Things for us were not perfect, but the highs were extreme highs and the lows were pretty low. We and it seemed like everything about the relationship was special, I guess If I could have done anything better, it would have been the day to day stuff. I too wish, hope and pray everyday that she will come, realizing how much each of us invested into the relationship and although we argued...it was almost always meaningless stuff. When she let me go, she immediately had a guy within a week, which in my eyes is cheating, because theres no way she didnt have him already lined up. This kills me only because she knows I was cheated on before I met her in the worse way. She use to tell me I could trust her and that I will learn to love again because of her. Well I did and then this all took place, never felt lower in my life. So im at many crossroads, totally depressed feeling defeated. Wanting with every fiber in my body to show her that I have reflected on the things I know I did wrong, I own up to it and regardless of anything that placed cracks into our foundation of love. I can forgive, forget and move on knowing very well what we are capable of together. I was dumped dec 1, last time we spoke dec 30 she told me she still wasnt with someone, So Idk If I can trust in what she says, or trust her when she comes back. Im giving her the space she needs because I respect, and my relationship that I hope can be rekindle. She even asked me to be friends the last we spoke, but I wasnt going to let myself slip into the friend zone, there is no way of coming back from it. Ive been No Contact now for 21 days. Hanging by a thread but still hoping she comes back, everyone tells me she will but time and space will help Its the grass is greener syndrome youll see folks talk about on here. Im hoping the things I went above to show her I cared will break through to her. So my advice to you is try no contact, and have faith in yourself.
Author Parixx Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 I'm sorry this happened to you. I know exactly how you feel. I was with my xx before this for five years and he cheated on me the entire time we were together. I vowed never to trust again but this new guy convinced me otherwise. He was perfect initially but I can't believe how he led me on like that. He continues to lie and says I'm accusing him. I wouldn't have said anything if I didn't have proof. He is very angry and I know he won't contact me. The problem with me is I trust too easily. I'm not even angry at him. I'm just hurt. It feels like I will never find someone who appreciates me for who I'am. I love with all my heart, I wish he saw that I understand how you feel parixx I was just recently dumped by my gf of 7 years. Things for us were not perfect, but the highs were extreme highs and the lows were pretty low. We and it seemed like everything about the relationship was special, I guess If I could have done anything better, it would have been the day to day stuff. I too wish, hope and pray everyday that she will come, realizing how much each of us invested into the relationship and although we argued...it was almost always meaningless stuff. When she let me go, she immediately had a guy within a week, which in my eyes is cheating, because theres no way she didnt have him already lined up. This kills me only because she knows I was cheated on before I met her in the worse way. She use to tell me I could trust her and that I will learn to love again because of her. Well I did and then this all took place, never felt lower in my life. So im at many crossroads, totally depressed feeling defeated. Wanting with every fiber in my body to show her that I have reflected on the things I know I did wrong, I own up to it and regardless of anything that placed cracks into our foundation of love. I can forgive, forget and move on knowing very well what we are capable of together. I was dumped dec 1, last time we spoke dec 30 she told me she still wasnt with someone, So Idk If I can trust in what she says, or trust her when she comes back. Im giving her the space she needs because I respect, and my relationship that I hope can be rekindle. She even asked me to be friends the last we spoke, but I wasnt going to let myself slip into the friend zone, there is no way of coming back from it. Ive been No Contact now for 21 days. Hanging by a thread but still hoping she comes back, everyone tells me she will but time and space will help Its the grass is greener syndrome youll see folks talk about on here. Im hoping the things I went above to show her I cared will break through to her. So my advice to you is try no contact, and have faith in yourself.
fixing Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Hey Darling. First thing, realise that this greasy jerk is a gutless twat. He had to lie to you, using his own family name to 'let you down gently' He's a liar, a cheater and lets face it, a complete prick for treating you this way. Im sorry to hear you have been cheated on before. Me too. Its refreshing to hear that you are faithful. I wish i met someone like you. Dont let this set you back. DO NOT EVER CALL HIM AGAIN. Be brave and go no contact. You cant give him any more ego boosts then he already has. If you call him you will be making him feel like the most attractive guy on the planet. Keep venting here. He is beneath you, and HE DOES NOT EVEN DESERVE YOU, TRUST ME. 1
Author Parixx Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 Thank you. I guess no contact will be the best thing. I just wish I could get him out of my head. I have lost complete trust in men in general. Hey Darling. First thing, realise that this greasy jerk is a gutless twat. He had to lie to you, using his own family name to 'let you down gently' He's a liar, a cheater and lets face it, a complete prick for treating you this way. Im sorry to hear you have been cheated on before. Me too. Its refreshing to hear that you are faithful. I wish i met someone like you. Dont let this set you back. DO NOT EVER CALL HIM AGAIN. Be brave and go no contact. You cant give him any more ego boosts then he already has. If you call him you will be making him feel like the most attractive guy on the planet. Keep venting here. He is beneath you, and HE DOES NOT EVEN DESERVE YOU, TRUST ME.
fixing Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 I know. Trust me, i was cheated on continuously for 15 months, it ended 14 months ago and i still hold onto that mistrust. Dont give up though, im not going to. I for example have never cheated in 6 years worth of relationships. Its going to be hard, but you gotta stick to no contact and he will slowly disappear from your mind. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 With time, you will slowly stop thinking such of this loser liar. Just do not sit and dwell on it. You are worth more than to cry and be hurt over some loser like this. 1
Author Parixx Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 He blocked me on Facebook. I don't understand why he is so angry. I don't understand any of this. I just miss him and its pathetic With time, you will slowly stop thinking such of this loser liar. Just do not sit and dwell on it. You are worth more than to cry and be hurt over some loser like this.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 He blocked me on Facebook. I don't understand why he is so angry. I don't understand any of this. I just miss him and its pathetic You'll go through all kinds of emotions. It is a good thing that he has blocked you. You should do likewise. You cannot get over someone, who is constantly thrown in your face. He was not good to or for you. He lied, manipulated, and hurt you. I do know where you are coming from. That is why I am telling you, that you will undergo many emotions. Just do not sit around (for long) and worry over this idiot. Doing so will be self-defeating, and leave you more depressed and unhealthy...All for nothing. You too deserve some solice, some form of peace and happiness. Do not give this jerk face anymore power over you, then he already has had over you. Be strong. Talk about it, if you must. But rest assured, things can get better. If you only work towards that better... It won't be easy. You'll be crying one moment; confused the next; bitter and angry another time. Happy and not even thinking of him. You will go through a constant flow of changing emotions. Till one day, you don't care as much, and are ready to move on to something better. He proved he didn't love you. But at least do something he could not: Love yourself. You're a capable woman, strong, smart and beautiful. You got him, and he blew it. You can and one day will find someone better. Not some cheap lying cheat.
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