What do women think when a man accepts rejection confidently?

[Bishop556]

I was at the bank today, and a woman and I began talking about mythology and music. We hit if off pretty well, and before she had to go I asked her if she wanted to get a cup of coffee with me. She rejected me by telling me that she had a boyfriend, but still gave me her number to remain friends. I just accepted that she rejected me without any spite or shame. I just smiled and said, "Don't worry about it. I hope you have a great day."

 

How do women feel when a man who they reject takes the rejection gracefully? Is it a sign of maturity and strength, or do they feel relieved?

[Aquanut]

Can't speak for women but I imagine it would be human nature to be relieved when someone takes a let down well.

[Hopeful30]

Who thinks that? I don't. On the contrary I always assume its absolutely detrimental to his confidence because that's how most men are these days.

[Allumere]

I was at the bank today, and a woman and I began talking about mythology and music. We hit if off pretty well, and before she had to go I asked her if she wanted to get a cup of coffee with me. She rejected me by telling me that she had a boyfriend, but still gave me her number to remain friends. I just accepted that she rejected me without any spite or shame. I just smiled and said, "Don't worry about it. I hope you have a great day."

 

How do women feel when a man who they reject takes the rejection gracefully? Is it a sign of maturity and strength, or do they feel relieved?

 

Depends on circumstances. Obviously being polite and positive in the scenario you presented is a good thing. No bridges burned. If a guy took the same position after a blind-sided dumping after an LTR I would think he wasn't all that vested.

[GoreSP]

I was at the bank today, and a woman and I began talking about mythology and music. We hit if off pretty well, and before she had to go I asked her if she wanted to get a cup of coffee with me. She rejected me by telling me that she had a boyfriend, but still gave me her number to remain friends. I just accepted that she rejected me without any spite or shame. I just smiled and said, "Don't worry about it. I hope you have a great day."

 

How do women feel when a man who they reject takes the rejection gracefully? Is it a sign of maturity and strength, or do they feel relieved?

 

It is a sign of maturity and strength.

But yes we are definitely relieved when that happens lol

[Janesays]

I think, "Whew!"

[acrosstheuniverse]

I think 'there's a self-confident, secure guy with high self-esteem who is socially skilled and at ease with himself'. It impresses me. Because it's rarer than you think!

 

Having said that, it's not quite the same being rejected because someone already has a partner than it is to be rejected say, post date, by someone who is single, for another reason. That's usually a little harder to take by some.

[FitChick]

Having said that, it's not quite the same being rejected because someone already has a partner than it is to be rejected say by someone who is single

That's why I always pretend I have a boyfriend.

[MrCastle]

Who cares? You don't get bonus points for sportsmanship. The chick still isn't gonna sleep with you.

 

That's how I see it, anyway.

[regine_phalange]

"He is cool".

[Yookie]

I was at the bank today, and a woman and I began talking about mythology and music. We hit if off pretty well, and before she had to go I asked her if she wanted to get a cup of coffee with me. She rejected me by telling me that she had a boyfriend, but still gave me her number to remain friends. I just accepted that she rejected me without any spite or shame. I just smiled and said, "Don't worry about it. I hope you have a great day."

 

How do women feel when a man who they reject takes the rejection gracefully? Is it a sign of maturity and strength, or do they feel relieved?

 

How is this a rejection? The fact that she already has a boyfriend has nothing to do with you. She gave you her number so you two can be friends yet you consider this a rejection??? I don't get it.

[silicone]

I'm struggling how this can be seen as a sign of maturity and strength.

[StanMusial]

This is kind of a "chicken or the egg" question, or "if a tree falls in the forest.." question. I doubt they really care either way so long as they are rid of you.

[fatalcharm]

...How do women feel when a man who they reject takes the rejection gracefully? Is it a sign of maturity and strength, or do they feel relieved?

 

All of the above. It is a sign of maturity and strength, but we are also relieved. She probably will want to continue a friendship (only a friendship) with you now because she would have a lot of respect for you.

[MrTurk]

That's why I always pretend I have a boyfriend.

 

And thats why I dont ask women out in public. Because of THAT mindset right there.

[InnocentMan]

If her number was genuine, you should have said you will call her. Pretending to be a woman's 'friend', is a great route into her affections. At worse, it will cause problems in her relationship, at which point, you, the hero, swoop in.

 

Learn the game, bro.

[onceagainitson]

Unless you know for sure that she already has a boyfriend all it is a non-confrontational way of getting rid of the situation. Most people don't like drama in public places, when they are behind their computers in their rooms in private they can play, but in public, they don't want people turning around and looking at the situation, so they make something up like this.

 

But how can it not bother a man when he gets rejected? Anyone getting rejected, regardless man or woman, would feel bad about it..if not, goes against what I know..but maybe I'm wrong.

[somedude81]

Who cares? You don't get bonus points for sportsmanship. The chick still isn't gonna sleep with you.

 

That's how I see it, anyway.

That's exactly it.

 

Why do you care what a woman who turned you down thinks of you.

 

I'd say that unless you two have mutual friends/acquaintances, there is no benefit at all to you if a woman thinks positively about you being rejected by her.

 

Of course if you do share mutual friends, don't be an ass.