khinda Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 i work with this girl and she started working about 3 months ago at my work. shes good friends with my sister and she told her that she likes me and gave her phone number to my sister and told her to give it to me. she also told my manager that she was instrested in me. so i called her after 2 days and she didn't pick up her phone. then she told me at my work that she was sleeping so i asked her at my work that if she wanted to do someting sometime and she said sure. i asked her for sunday and shes like 'i am not sure what i am doing on sunday' tha got me little confused then i kinda forgot about and then the other day she came up to me and asked me if i wanted to do somethin on saturday and i said yes. but later she changed her plan because she had to go with her dad to hockey game. so i was like ok. then she told me on this monday that she will give me a call on tuesday and tell me the day. but the she didn't call again so it happend 3 times when she said she will call and she didn't. she said she was busy this week with her finals but can't she just give me a call for like 10 seconds when she said she will help?
Colleen Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Seems very confusing..I don't think she knows what she wants..Don't wait around for her.
iceisles Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Don't wait around, but don't give up, either. Wait to see if contacts you. It seems there are a lot of folks out there that don't know what they want, and even when they do, they aren't quite ready for it. Love is tough.
Hund1976 Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 She's playing games with you. But she can't win if you don't play. Ask her out one more time for a specific date. If she says something wishy-washy like "well I'll have to wait and see my schedule" then tell her "well I guess you are too busy to date now" and end the conversation right there. If she is interested she will then ask you out. If not then forget her and find another girl.
Author khinda Posted January 17, 2005 Author Posted January 17, 2005 ok this girl asked me out again on friday and told me that she was having family problems that's why she was acting like that but she said now shes fine and she really wanna do stuff with me and will do her best to make it work and i said ok but the she was spose to call me yesterday but she didn't and she was spose to work to and she didn't show up either and i tried calling her and no answer. help please
iceisles Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Give her a little time. It sounds like she has a lot going on right now. In fact, I'm kinda in the same situation - her busy schedule makes me question her interest, but I think the simple explanation is....you guessed it, just being busy.
Huntr777 Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 I dunno, but if it were me (and yes I have been in this position) then I would just totally walk away from this one. Yes she could be busy, but I think it's totally wrong of her to make these "almost plans" with you and then not follow through. I'm sure if you did the same to her then she wouldn't give you the time of day. Personally, I say just walk away because she seems to be a game player. And if these are indeed legitimate reasons, then you will have to wait and for her to contact you. Stop calling her, and let the ball be in her court. If she does try to make plans again, you might want to lightly point out that every time you try to get together something always seems to happen and you never do. See what she says... My guess is that she's either keen on you and then chickens out at the last minute, or that she's used to playing games. (Yes I know some of you out there are saying that she really could be busy...) Hunter
iceisles Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Being "busy" is something that almost always sounds like a flat-out excuse. Heck, I rarely believe it when I hear it. The thing is, some people legitimately are busy. The best way to get your answers is to back off completely and place the proverbial ball in her court. If she calls you and wants to get together at some point, you can assume she was being genuine with the excuse.
VirginiaBob Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 The ball is in her court now. Don't initiate. Let her make the next move. I understand that it's hard to do though.
iceisles Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Originally posted by VirginiaBob Let her make the next move. I understand that it's hard to do though. Ain't that the truth! It is always so tempting to want to pick up the phone and call.
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