Colleen Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 My boyfriend of 14 months just broke up with me. I am heart broken. I have been calling him still and begging him to give us another chance, I know it sounds pathetic but, i really love him and can't imagine me without him. I told him that things between us would change because we were fighting alot and not getting along the last few months. now that he isn't here i realize how much i need him becuase I love him..i don't know how to get him back..he tells me i need to just play it by ear what is that all about?? what should i do please help..i am heartbroken..
iceisles Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 A short-period of pursuit following a breakup is ok. It will show him that you still care, that you still want to work on things. If you don't get anywhere after a few days, though, you need to go to immediate no contact. Do not call him, do not e-mail him, etc. It will hurt, and you won't want to do that, but trust me, it will help you heal some and let you both sort things out in your head. If I may ask, why did he break up with you? Did he give you a reason? Were things getting rocky towards the end of the relationship? I assume so, because you said you were fighting a lot. If he was unwilling to work on the issues then, he will unlikely want to for some time - or at all. I know it sucks to hear that. Stay strong, and you will get through this. We're here for you.
Author Colleen Posted January 12, 2005 Author Posted January 12, 2005 I am not too certain for the reason of break up..I am thinking it is because of all the fighting..It's just wierd we have always worked it out in the past and this time it's different..
iceisles Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Originally posted by Colleen I am not too certain for the reason of break up..I am thinking it is because of all the fighting..It's just weird we have always worked it out in the past and this time it's different.. It's different for a reason. Would he be willing to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with you? You aren't likely to get these answers over the phone. You may not get them in-person, either, but you might be able to tell that he is hiding something. And if he is hiding something and not being honest, is this someone you'd really want to be with? Time will make you realize that those kind of people are not worth the effort, no matter how much you once loved them.
Hund1976 Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 It will really depend on why he broke up with you. If it was really just from all the fighting then you would probably have a good chance to talk things out and try again. But if he just fell out of love with you and doesn't have the same feelings for you anymore then there's really not much you can do.
Author Colleen Posted January 12, 2005 Author Posted January 12, 2005 Yeah we broke up because of all the fighting..i've been trying to get him back all week, and he wont give me straight answers..he says we will talk tonight..why is he being so stubborn?
iceisles Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Originally posted by Colleen why is he being so stubborn? Probably because he's trying to protect his male ego. Men rarely like to appear weak. The funny thing is, in doing so, they often look immature or illogical.
Author Colleen Posted January 12, 2005 Author Posted January 12, 2005 yeah maybe you are right he is trying to act tough..i mean he is sayng when we will or wont talk and when we do talk he decides when it is enough I will have to see how it goes tonight i guess
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