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My ex bf's suddenly back on Skype.. blocked him… did I do the right thing?


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Did I do the right thing….?

 

I wonder if I did both of us a huge favor.

We were together for a few years… a huge part of each others life for sure… so of course we couldn't be friends.. had to stay in no contact for almost a year now…

Suddenly he's back on Skype a lot of the time I'm on so I had to block him and make a new Skype… I just wonder if i kept my old Skype he would contact me… but then I think if he really wanted to contact me, he knows my e-mail and we have mutual friends he could ask but he hasn't done that..

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Why would he and why have you not deleted after so long?

 

 

Did I do the right thing….?

 

I wonder if I did both of us a huge favor.

We were together for a few years… a huge part of each others life for sure… so of course we couldn't be friends.. had to stay in no contact for almost a year now…

Suddenly he's back on Skype a lot of the time I'm on so I had to block him and make a new Skype… I just wonder if i kept my old Skype he would contact me… but then I think if he really wanted to contact me, he knows my e-mail and we have mutual friends he could ask but he hasn't done that..

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Your ex-boyfriend is out of your life now, so it's no longer "us." There is no "us." There's only you. Blocking him and changing accounts might've been good for you only if you wanted it to be. You could easily just stare at your ex-boyfriend's username on Skype, but you don't have to click on it or anything. The only reason why it would be a big deal to you is because you're tempted to talk to him. What is right totally depends on how you feel. If you feel that you're less likely to talk to him when you block him and things like that, then it's the right thing because you want to fulfill your NC obligation. However, if that tempts you to look at other sources (like Facebook, or any other social media) then you're not really benefitting from blocking and changing your username.

 

You're absolutely right that he could very well get in touch with you. I could've done a lot of things when my ex-girlfriend broke up with me. I knew where she lived, we had mutual friends, I knew several usernames of hers from various websites, etc. If I really wanted to, I could contact her without a problem. She might've not responded, but the message would've been received. Regardless, do things for YOUR benefit...not for the benefit of the "relationship" or anything like that. If it feels right, it is right.

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