Bishop556 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Even though our break up was rough, and though she did many hurtful things towards me, I wish my ex the best in life. I truly loved her and tried to give her the best of myself that I could give, and if it truly makes her happy to not have me in her life, I only wish life for her is easy and happiness rains upon her. I was always there for her. I don't truly know why I am typing this blog post, maybe as a way to relieve my guilt or since I still love her. I feel I should be angry, which I am at moments, but I still want the best for her. Is it unusual to feel this way about your ex?
jphcbpa Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I think this is a good place to be. I too have been praying for my ex. I ask that she be granted anything I would ask of myself. That I want her to be happy and if that is without me, then so be it. I am not in control and I am only responsible for my happiness. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 It's probably a bit unusual because most people don't have that generous of a heart. However it shows that you are a good person. Good for you! 2
Allumere Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 No, I don't think it is unusual. I think many people feel or can feel that way after some time has past. It aligns with the ability to forgive. Forgiving someone and wishing them well doesn't mean you still don't have hurt or that you have checked off all the boxes of acceptance...most of us have to work through all that 1
H245 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 3 weeks BU, I do wish my ex the best even though I am still hurt and angry about how it ended. She has a lot of issues going on (no job, no real place to live, family problems, self-esteem issues, etc). I hope she finds herself and finds happiness in her life. Though I wished it was with me, I know that will never be the case. 2
Babolat Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 When I broke up with my ex back in March, I prayed for her every night. I prayed that he would guide her in the direction SHE wanted to go and help her have the strenght and courage to resolve the things SHE wanted to resolve/work on. And, I felt it and meant it. There came a time, about 4 months later, where I truly wishe happiness for her, and hoped she would find a man shwo could accept her, and love her, "as is". Even with our recent "try again", that is not going work, I still feel this way for her. She is an emotionally broken woman, she needs help, I still pray she will find it and end up with the right man, as many men in her past have taking advantage of her "brokeness". 2
2fargone Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Why would I wish her anything at all ? She is out of my life, I have no dealings with her anymore. 1
radiodarcy Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I don't think there's anything unusual about wishing your ex the best. I think a lot of people tend to do that; as it may help them work towards closure so they can be at peace with themselves and the break up. That being said, I have to admit: for a long time after the breakup I wished my ex *anything* but the best. In fact, I wished him the worst At first I felt guilty for feeling that way but after awhile, I embraced it. I mean I didn't search for a curse to put on him or anything. But I accepted it as part of the anger I felt towards him. In some ways, giving myself permission to hate him made it easier for me to get over him. It's like a child who has a temper tantrum and eventually tires him/herself out. Which is what happened with me. A few years later, when I did run into him and learned that his life wasn't going so well, I didn't necessarily feel bad for him. But I didn't feel gleeful about it either. It was more like "meh" and I went on my way.
Softie Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Really I wished my would get hurt, or feel exactly what he put my through. Don't get me wrong I feel great now I just believe in justice/karma call it what you like I want mine :-) All in good time (Smithers) all in good time......lol....Mr Burns impression any good?
PogoStick Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I'm a good person, and my ex can go fk herself 1
FortunateSon Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I think of myself as a good person and mean well, but at this point I don't wish my ex a happy life; I don't wish her a miserable life either. I hope she has an "average" life, but someday I hope she deeply regrets the decisions and mistakes she made in our relationship. She probably won't though. 2
nittygritty Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 As long as someone isn't pining for the other person to return and moving forward with their life then I think it's great to have good thoughts about your ex and wish them well. Not every romantic relationship is meant for spending the rest of your lives together. 1
ElecTriX Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Me and my ex's BU was brutal. Post BU was even worse, we have been almost worst enemies, mostly because of her behaviour. Trying to hurt me whenever she can by texts and such, talking about her new guy and so on. Two days ago I felt that it couldn't continue, it needed to stop. I called her and asked her to come and talk (also to sign some papers concerning the house). She came and we talked and I told her; "I hope that you will be happy and that everything goes the way you want. I can't be there for you and to be your friend because I have to move on. But I really hope that you will be happy because you deserve it." Her respons? "I already feel a little happier than before". The pain.. But that talk was closure, I now know that there is no way back. It will never be me and her again and I've accepted that and I truly wish that it goes well with her and her "new path".
freebird31 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I don't wish anything bad upon my ex. And I don't think that's unusual that you feel that way. That's very graceful of you. I don't wish anything bad upon my ex and I truly forgive him, even after how horrible and bad of a breakup it was, I know my ex. And he is not a bad person. One silly little breakup or mistakes that we make does not define us as wholes. I do wish him a very successful career and hope he is doing well with school. Because I think that's what he wants most in life right now. As for relationships...I don't know if I would mean it if I said I hope he is happy in his future relationships. I haven't got there yet. But I do hope he is doing well....he's a stranger now..but I wish him well.
maturityassets Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 There is one song that comes on when listening to my headphones and it goes "everybody wants somebody who doesn't want them who wants some body else baby! You want somebody ooo you want somebody, somebody else baby. Now listen don't get hurt don't you get hurt, don't get hurt don't you get hurt..." and that song always goes out to my ex. Its me just wishing her all the best in my mind. Its not unusual I bless her rather than loving her. It only becomes unusual or I guess bad if you feel the need to contact them and let them know you wish them the best. No need to ever do that
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