thegrouch Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 We broke up 5 months ago. I broke up with her over an argument, found out afterwards she was talking to another guy behind my back beforehand. So no matter what the break would have happened one way or another. She has been dating this guy since we broke up. I did text get today asking if we could talk. Not really sure why. She said no. After four years together, she won't give me the time of day. We.haven't had a conversation since the.breakup. I text back: f*** you and f*** (the guy shes dating). Probably immature but I feel better.
chris21422 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Damn man! Just why did you do that for? You should have never contacted her and just move on especially she's with someone else now..
Xemyd Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Probably immature but I feel better. Until tomorrow...
Author thegrouch Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 I know. We broke up over an argument, and I begged her back for two weeks before I found out from her mom that she was with someone else. Then I found out she was already talking to him behind my back. I wanted her back for a long time, but I feel like I am subconsciously trying to burn all the bridges. I don't know why.
Author thegrouch Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 I feel like I am trying to burn bridges because as much as I want it to, I know it can never work.
OhThatGirl Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Eh it's alright. Time to get back up on the wagon. That door has closed but sometimes you need to see it completely shut before you can move on. It is definitely closed/shut. Time to move on in a different direction.
Author thegrouch Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 I wonder if I might finally be entering the "anger phase"?
ithappenedagain Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I wonder if I might finally be entering the "anger phase"? I text back: f*** you and f*** (the guy shes dating). Probably immature but I feel better. I would say so.....
rosedl Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Don't worry about it and get back on the wagon. People break no contact all the time. The woman who literally wrote the book about NC broke it 23!!! times before she finally stopped. Personally, I think no contact can be a bit of a game. I contacted my ex and told him what I thought and how crumby he was, and I don't really regret it. I didn't say fu. Just pointed out his behavior and told him how lousy it felt to be shut out after being so close and be pushed away yet again (second time he has done it). I then texted him and told him that it has been hard reconciling the break up in my mind because of the major swing and how I am working on accepting that we are finally over and I am getting there and I will now leave him be. The end was so sputtered and confusing with breaks and push aways, it was taking time for it to be clear. The interchange actually made it clearer in my mind that we were really done. It wasn't a clean break, more a slow tortured and unclear sputtering (classic, I will take a break until I feel more secure actually breaking up). Everyone is playing checkers and chess with their hearts. Trying to not let the other person see the damage they wrought to keep their dignity. Well that is all fine and good, it is a act. Yep, I am broken hearted. Appropriate human response in this situation. Not ashamed of it and not ashamed to have called him out. He is the one who does these bizarre on/off light switch fast changes with his emotions. One day its forever, soul mates, and we are planning home renovations, a week and a half later, its, you know this may not work! Did I impose on his pretend world of this never happened (he will wake up again, I am sure of it, he did the exact same thing last time but this time I will not go back). I said what I had to say. I wont contact him again. But, I wish people would stop being so hard on themselves when this happens. No, it is best not to end up swearing and cursing at them, but there it is....And, I really believe that when their true confusion in the heart of someone because a break up is so confusing, sometimes it takes a cold hard bitch slap from them to see that this is truly over.
Jord11 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 That's crazy, my ex broke up with me a year ago, I've been in nc ever since not one word! I know she has another bf now but I will not be the first one to reach out, I want too but I just can't, till she does ill never speak to her again
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