ithappenedagain Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Hey everyone, I need some advice asap. She text messaged me after 4 days of NC (this is the first contact since she broke the news..) Anyways... We shared a place together and tomorrow I have movers coming over to move out all of my stuff. Her text message said "I hope you are well. Sorry to bother you but the movers are still coming tomorrow right?" I REALLY dont know if I should break NC or just have my friend send her a message. HELP! What do I do. I really REALLY REALLY want to stay strong with NC, but I dont know what to do in this situation. I still love the girl to death and I am afraid she will think it is an immature move to not even respond to her directly.
organizedchaos Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 It's ok to break to deal with mutual business. Just stick to the topic at hand. No emotion!
DontBreakEven Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 yes, unfortunately you have to reply to that and get that stuff out of the way. thats not really breaking nc. just don't discuss anything other than the matter at hand.
Author ithappenedagain Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 Thanks for the advice everyone. I did send her a short and sweet response back. Of course, her replies back to me were nothing short of was I was expected: setback.... me: Yes. I will be moving everything out around 10am. Should only take an hour or so. It would be nice if you could give me the space while I move everything out. her: I will. I also packed it all up for you. her: Can you please also send me the prorated rent money from the days you were here? I prorated it out and between rent and utilities it is ....... her: Don't forget your stuff in the storage locker. I left the key. I AM SO SETBACK NOW. HOW CAN SHE STILL EXPECT ME TO PAY HER MY PORTION OF RENT WHEN SHE BASICALLY TOLD ME TO MOVE OUT. I am torn. Everyone I have talked to basically said I would be nuts to give her anything. On top of that, I am paying for a U-Haul truck and a storage locker to keep my stuff in while I find a new apartment. Guys I am really struggling right now. She has clearly moved on and it's killing me. I should have just had someone else text her back for me so I didn't have to go through this setback.
chris21422 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 it sucks bro.. just be sure when you past all this you don't respond to her contact attempts anymore..
pickflicker Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Thanks for the advice everyone. I did send her a short and sweet response back. Of course, her replies back to me were nothing short of was I was expected: setback.... me: Yes. I will be moving everything out around 10am. Should only take an hour or so. It would be nice if you could give me the space while I move everything out. her: I will. I also packed it all up for you. her: Can you please also send me the prorated rent money from the days you were here? I prorated it out and between rent and utilities it is ....... her: Don't forget your stuff in the storage locker. I left the key. I AM SO SETBACK NOW. HOW CAN SHE STILL EXPECT ME TO PAY HER MY PORTION OF RENT WHEN SHE BASICALLY TOLD ME TO MOVE OUT. I am torn. Everyone I have talked to basically said I would be nuts to give her anything. On top of that, I am paying for a U-Haul truck and a storage locker to keep my stuff in while I find a new apartment. Guys I am really struggling right now. She has clearly moved on and it's killing me. I should have just had someone else text her back for me so I didn't have to go through this setback. It's business. If your stuff has been living there, but you have not, you owe her rent. Square it up now or you're just drawing out the separation. She's packed your stuff for you, which was kind of her. She's aslo making herself scarce so you can get your stuff. Pay whatever you owe and get it over and done with.
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