struass Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 (edited) I'll try and keep this short. Basically my partner of 10 years left me for someone else 8 months ago....we have a child of 2. I left and bought a new flat leaving her and my some in the house which I still pay for. I went LC with her as I couldn't cope with the other guy stuff. Took me all of 6 months but I started getting me stuff together. Spent all my spare time with my son, he stays with me 3/4 nights a week. Used the gym to get rid of my frustrations and lost 2 stone and 4 inches on my waist. I was starting to feel good again. Anyway, I went on a couple of dates with someone and my ex found out and went ballistic (even though she was still seeing the other guy). She camped out at my flat demanding to know why I started seeing someone and didn't try to win her back. This went on for weeks, I stopped seeing the other person and spent sometime with my ex, occasionally intimate. This was until 2 weeks ago when she said she couldn't do it anymore and has went back to the other guy!! Is she confused, playing me or just bonkers? My son loves it when we're all together and going LC again would break my heart. Thoughts? Edited January 20, 2014 by struass
iworthmore Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 DAMN MAN!! WHY?????? wow she feels amazing now, having 2 guys and could have more. sorry mate ur being her doormat. why did you do that?? she managed to get under ur skin. she was testing the water and it was so comfy. u took her back too easy. easiest thing she ever did. man, she left for another guy. twice!!! forget about her and about any second chance. u cant trust her again ( which seems u really do now). she looked for a challenge, u were piece of cake. sorry for being harsh mate. no offence she's not worth it. start dating again. like she never existed. be a man!!! 1
No Limit Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Looks like you've been naive enough to allow her to play with you, and she got all she wanted. Truth be told, you two would have had far better chances ever getting back together if you'd ignored her for the next year. But now it's pretty much done. Best of luck for your future, to find a better woman. By the way, are you still paying for the house she lives in, banging that other guy? If yes, why waste your money on her anymore? 1
BetrayedBroken Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Fool me once.......... I'm sorry to hear about your personal circumstances. She has had her second chance and blew it. If you go back a third time I think she will see you as her personal punk to do with you and treat you whatever way she feels like. Presumably it is alright for her to see another guy but not OK for you to see another girl - Where the hell does she get off!! Move on, but try and maintain as normal a relationship with your child as you can, that is my advice to you for what it is worth. Good luck to you my friend.
David87 Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 I'll try and keep this short. Basically my partner of 10 years left me for someone else 8 months ago....we have a child of 2. I left and bought a new flat leaving her and my some in the house which I still pay for. I went LC with her as I couldn't cope with the other guy stuff. Took me all of 6 months but I started getting me stuff together. Spent all my spare time with my son, he stays with me 3/4 nights a week. Used the gym to get rid of my frustrations and lost 2 stone and 4 inches on my waist. I was starting to feel good again. Anyway, I went on a couple of dates with someone and my ex found out and went ballistic (even though she was still seeing the other guy). She camped out at my flat demanding to know why I started seeing someone and didn't try to win her back. This went on for weeks, I stopped seeing the other person and spent sometime with my ex, occasionally intimate. This was until 2 weeks ago when she said she couldn't do it anymore and has went back to the other guy!! Is she confused, playing me or just bonkers? My son loves it when we're all together and going LC again would break my heart. Thoughts? Dude she is bonkers, the nerve she has to be upset about you dating other girls when she did it first. Don't ever think about getting back together. Be there for your son but not to her.
AlexfromBoston Posted January 23, 2014 Posted January 23, 2014 Strauss, you obviously can't go NC so your best bet would be to play it cool and maintain LC. You also don't want to "make waves" with the mother of your child so your best bet would be to kill her with kindness. Just act civil, pleasant and let her know you have moved on and LOVE IT!!! Let her know you have never been happier and maybe mention that you met some beautiful women. Make it seem like your ex was a huge burden on your love life. Also, in the interim, if you don't already know, try to discover the reason that she left you in the first place. What served as the catalyst for your relationships demise? How did you become unattractive to her? When you discover the answers, fix them and move on.
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