jesienna31 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I recently broke up an affair with married men... No one found out although there were suspicious. Please don't judge me.. it all has been hard. Anyway while I was seeing him I got to know few of his friends and their families. They just treated me as a work colleauge of his... Is it ok to keep the lines of communication open there with these people and meet up with them? What would be his point of view on that? I recently met up with one of them after our break up, but it did make me feel uncomfortable after that since I am now obsessing about what is he thinking and if I shouldn't have done it... They are mostly his and his wife's friends... not mine...I just want to let people live with their lives and get on with mine... What is the best think to do. Please advise...
jphcbpa Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 very bad idea for your emotional health and everyone involved. NC all around would probably be best, but you already know this deep down. 1
Author jesienna31 Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 very bad idea for your emotional health and everyone involved. NC all around would probably be best, but you already know this deep down. I agree with that... I think I already crossed the line meeting up with one of them. Shall I do my explanations to my ex MM? He might be wondering what were my motives of seeing her. The only trouble is that these people have no idea that i should be maintaining NC with him and any contact with any of his friends or colleagues is just simply making it hard for me and him... I know my emotional health is important but it is hard to turn down people who simply don't know...
jphcbpa Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I agree with that... I think I already crossed the line meeting up with one of them. Shall I do my explanations to my ex MM? He might be wondering what were my motives of seeing her. The only trouble is that these people have no idea that i should be maintaining NC with him and any contact with any of his friends or colleagues is just simply making it hard for me and him... I know my emotional health is important but it is hard to turn down people who simply don't know... No need to explain anything to xMM. Forget him and forget that. You need to take care of you and only you. What he thinks is not your concern. 1
Author jesienna31 Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 Thanks... yeah I really should step away from this social circle as you say, especially that she is also a very good friend of his wife and this put a lot of additional emotional weight on myself. I just hope he didn't mind that I met her, I know it should not matter what he thinks but I still care about him a lot and I just want things to go to well for both of us in our lives, even when in NC and apart.
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