jassy Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 My ex & I are going through a VERY rough time with each other . We broke up back in October but still keep in contact because I am pregnant. I haven't spoke to him since Thursday because I'm tried of arguing with him & I'm tired of the hurtful things he says to me. Well today I was going through my phone & came across this old poem that I wrote him back in April. I never finished it or gave it to him. I sat here & read it & it COMPLETELY bought me to tears. Before my relationship with him, I was fresh out of a very abusive relationship. In my poem I was mentioning the terrible things that happened to me in the relationship & how happy & in love I am with him, & how I feel like he saved me from a very bad time in my life. After I read it, I broke down & cried just thinking about how much I love & miss my ex. I want to call him & tell him to come over just to talk, but I'm afraid to get rejected & plus I don't know if it's a good idea to contact him at all. What should I do? We use to be the HAPPIEST couple. Everyday was a WONDERFUL day. I can't help but miss him. I just want to work things out with him & get back to those great times. That poem REALLY got to me. I just been crying. I hate feeling like this because it gives me the urge to smoke & I can't because I'm prego. I feel so much anxiety & worked up. I don't know what to do. I just want to hug him & tell him how much I love him. I don't want to sound needy or desperate though
Hopeful30 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Don't contact him. This relationship isn't going to work and like you said, it only brings you tears. There's nothing wrong with remembering the good times but thats all they are, good memories. By the way, KUDOS GIRL for not getting back with him just because you're pregnant. Good for you for not letting that affect your relationship with him. I really admire that, you are very strong. Please don't get back with your ex. It would be the same as taking all the hurtful things he said and did to YOU and passing them on to your child, because one way or another they will witness this or even be victim. The right choice would be to move on. I promise you will find an amazing guy. Just do your thing girl.
julzfromsa Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Its a very difficult situation but also a blessing. Your child is going to be beautiful, and it will have an amazingly strong, wonderful, independent mother. You do not need this jerk! He is not the same as he was before, its a different person. You will find someone who is better in every-way. Ride the storm sweetheart. We know how you feel, I promise you that. Try go NC unless it is absolutely necessary. Julz
preraph Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Just make sure you have gone through the legalities of filing for child support. You say everything was wonderful, but it wasn't because above that you said how rough it was. Just don't worry about getting together with him. Once you have the baby, it's not like you have time to mess with all that anyway, but be sure he is paying child support. You will have to maintain a polite relationship with him for the child. It's probably easier to do that if you are not also trying to reunite because that will only cause more anger and hurt. Just keep this ship steady for the child. Don't rock the boat. See if you can even get along with him as the father of your child.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 My ex & I are going through a VERY rough time with each other . We broke up back in October but still keep in contact because I am pregnant. I haven't spoke to him since Thursday because I'm tried of arguing with him & I'm tired of the hurtful things he says to me. Well today I was going through my phone & came across this old poem that I wrote him back in April. I never finished it or gave it to him. I sat here & read it & it COMPLETELY bought me to tears. Before my relationship with him, I was fresh out of a very abusive relationship. In my poem I was mentioning the terrible things that happened to me in the relationship & how happy & in love I am with him, & how I feel like he saved me from a very bad time in my life. After I read it, I broke down & cried just thinking about how much I love & miss my ex. I want to call him & tell him to come over just to talk, but I'm afraid to get rejected & plus I don't know if it's a good idea to contact him at all. What should I do? We use to be the HAPPIEST couple. Everyday was a WONDERFUL day. I can't help but miss him. I just want to work things out with him & get back to those great times. That poem REALLY got to me. I just been crying. I hate feeling like this because it gives me the urge to smoke & I can't because I'm prego. I feel so much anxiety & worked up. I don't know what to do. I just want to hug him & tell him how much I love him. I don't want to sound needy or desperate though Read the bolded parts again. They contradict each other. Do NOT contact him. If everything was so happy and awesome, you'd still be together. Why did you break up?
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