deponie12 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Ok- I should have NEVER posted him on cheatersville.com, but I did. (HA!) apparently he googled his name ( why is he googling his name in the first place??) He saw an anonymous post ( LOL, he knew it HAD to be me..... too many personal details in the post) anyway-- my co worker has been screening my voice mails, as he STILL calls everyday, she then heard a disturbing one: He was LIVID on the voice mail, saying he found a post on cheatersville and he knows it was me, he is going to continue to harass me until I remove the post. I should have just ignored him, but the DARN softy in me called him back. I am over the anger, so I told him I would get it removed. He then was SO happy to hear from me, I told him I was NOT going back to him, and the crazy cycle that we have been through for the last 3 years. He wants to be great friends.... I told him it was not a good idea, as we tried that in the past. NOW he feels he can leave voice mails telling me he is thinking about me, loves me and have a good day. I feel nothing- but I also don't want his manipulative ways to get a hold of me..... I am SO MAD at myself......
Zahara Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 (edited) People that don't feel anything don't care to engage in drama. You cared and you were affected and that's why you posted on cheaterville. Posters had advised you to seek your HR dept. for assistance to stop him from stalking, some told you to seek the legal services your company offered to find ways to stop him from stalking you, some asked you to see if your IT dept. could change your extension -- you ignored it and said you could deal with it. You could have just removed his profile. Instead you called and you have set off more drama. Something tells me you want him contacting you because it validates you and boosts your ego. You have to decide for yourself as to when it's over. Not sure what advice you need. Edited January 20, 2014 by Zahara
Author deponie12 Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 I know. I really do know what to do. I tried to get the post off cheatersville- they removed it but then he found it on badboyreport- It will take 6 months to a year to remove. I feel bad for doing it, as it mentions his workplace and such. Not cool of me. I hate that I care how this affects him-- I would be livid if someone did that to me, I just wanted him to know I would handle it-
Zahara Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I know. I really do know what to do. I tried to get the post off cheatersville- they removed it but then he found it on badboyreport- It will take 6 months to a year to remove. I feel bad for doing it, as it mentions his workplace and such. Not cool of me. I hate that I care how this affects him-- I would be livid if someone did that to me, I just wanted him to know I would handle it- You've created a situation whereby he has reason and will use this reason to keep contacting you. And you have created a situation that will keep YOU attached to drama and a constant trigger to pain. Thus won't allow you to move on. You have done that to yourself. He's a cheater. What do you want from him? Really, what?
ithappenedagain Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 First off.. He CHEATED on you so dont feel bad at all that you posted stuff about him on cheatersville. Secondly, just go back to your original gameplan. Dont let him control your mind. Take back the power!
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