xAkulax Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I recently came across article online about a marred woman who was moon lighting as an escort unbenounced to here husband. In the article she says she was bored with here job and wanted some excitement in here life not just being as she puts it a dull wife and mum. Google search I'm a call girl and my husband doesn't know for the full story My question cheating and affairs are wrong we know this but at lest there is the option reconcile and try to move past it but with this I just don't know can something like this be reconcile and forgiven please your opinion. I'm a call girl and my husband doesn't know - Mirror Online
Confuddled1983 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I'm actually in two minds as to which I think is worse. At least what she is doing is more or less a "job" and there isn't the same kind of emotional connection one often has in affairs. For me, it's the emotional ties someone creates with someone behind my back that is heart breaking, it feels as though they are throwing away all our hopes and dreams on another woman. With this they never intend to leave the partner because of it, it's not about something lacking at home - I just don't feel I'd be as hurt by this (I guess I'd never know unless I was in the situation though). I would of course be extremely hurt and angry by it all - the whole deceptiveness would make me question if I could ever trust the person again. I'm just a very open person and expect the same in return. 3
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 (edited) Akula, I know English is not your mother tongue, so please know, I'm trying to help, here.... Possibly WORSE THAN an affair... I recently came across (an) article online about a marreid woman who was moon lighting as an escort unbenounced unbeknown to here husband. In the article she says she was bored with here job and wanted some excitement in here life not just being as she puts it a dull wife and mum. Google search I'm a call girl and my husband doesn't know for the full story My question cheating and affairs are wrong we know this but at least there is the option (to) reconcile and try to move past it but with this I just don't know can something like this be reconciled and forgiven please [give] your opinion. I'm a call girl and my husband doesn't know - Mirror Online There is a similar thread running where a husband discovered, due to being told by a friend, that his wife had briefly participated in porn films, 2 years before he met her. She engaged in this behaviour out of desperation for money, and her life had been at a low point, then. However, this scenario is entirely different, because her reasons are boredom, and she is married already. her decision is deliberate and deceitful. This, to me, would in all probability be a deal-breaker for the husband. And I could fully see why. Edited January 20, 2014 by TaraMaiden 5
Author xAkulax Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 lol English is my first tongue my spell check however dos not agree but thank you for letting me know and thank you again for the other thread
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 My bad... I thought you actually were Russian.... In that case, your spelling stinks, and your spell-checker needs an overhaul!! The other thing I would say, is that 'sex sells'.... I wouldn't necessarily believe every word you read in a paper. Sometimes, reporters will add a bit here, tweak a bit there, and just "Quote" something else out of context.... A very good friend of mine was involved with newspaper edition, and he admitted the only news he ever truly trusted was the Reuters last-minute items on the back pages of some newspapers.... these came in quick and fast, in order to make the paper's publishing deadline, but had to be short, succinct, to the point, brief and - above all - absolutely dead on the nail honest. Reporters didn't have time to embellish, add whistles-and-bells and make a huge story out of it. So Reuters snippets are quick raw facts. THAT'S the news to take note of..... 1
Arieswoman Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I don't know how the husband doesn't know about this. Where does he think she is going when she gets all dressed up to meet her clients? Or does she go out dressed "normally" and then does a twizzle in a 'phone booth like Wonderwoman? Something about this story doesn't add up.
harrybrown Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 How does she keep from getting stds and giving them to him?
janedoe67 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Actually what she is doing is...a lot of affairs. So it isn't a matter of worse. Anyway the question is moot; there is nothing on earth worse than an affair. 1
thummper Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Her luck will run out one day, and then so will her husband and her happy(?) life. Poor baby. Cheating is bad enough, but to turn yourself into a prostitute? God, that's low!
chelsea2011 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Yep. I would say that it is possibly worse than an affair. She is leading a whole life complete and separate from her family. And for the thrill of it no less! Scary stuff. If I were her BS I don't think I would be able to get past such a deception if I found out. If she tried to make amends and reconcile I don't know that I would be able to trust that her efforts were real. I would constantly feel any emotions she showed me were nothing more than an act as if she studied the subject and played the part like a script in a movie. Yuck. Reading stories like this make me realize that there are some jaded people in this world. Very very scary. I would feel more than betrayed if I were her husband. It would feel like I was sleeping with a toxic snake! 1
painfullyobvious Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I've always hated the excitement excuse. I need more excitement so I cheated. Try hang-gliding, sky diving or even drag racing. The excitement for her isn't in the sex it is that she is playing her husband and could get caught. People like this is why so many of us have no trust at all in forming relationships. Here we have a man who is going about his life thinking he has a great marriage and his wife is seeking excitement from affairs. Faith in humanity diminishing fast.... 1
MrMeh Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 If I were to be married to somebody, I would want to make sure I knew the person I married, both pros and cons. That simple. 2
miguelcervantes Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Ah the Daily Mirror, no less! Written for the true titillation of us discerning gents (and a few choice ladies too). The bittersweet pain we should feel for this poor, unknowing brother! Too many questions (some have already been asked) - she tells him she is going to the gym dressed like Mata Hari, what does she do with the money (under a floorboard in the flat ?), does he not notice that she is getting de-sensitised down there ?
Spark1111 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 OP, I'm trying to understand why you perceive a difference and are trying to quantify why an affair is less hurtful than a spouse secretly being a paid prostitute or escort. Aren't the tenets the same? As in, there is sex with others outside of the marriage and it is kept secret and the spouse is lied to in achieving that behavior? Do you think it matters if it is one person and 22 sexual instances or 22 partners and 3 sexual acts? why would you think one is more hurtful than another? I think either scenario causes untold devastation. Betrayal is....betrayal. A heart is broken....no matter what the scenario. 1
Author xAkulax Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 I would agree with you there is no difference Betrayal is betrayal I am merely seeking the opinions of others on this article so please do not think I am suggesting one is worse than the other. I simply wanted to know if reconciliation was even possible in a situation like this or is the act so horrifying that it's not even thinkable.
Sofie2013 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 This story remind of Suzy Hamilton. The only difference is I think her husband knew about it. Olympian Turned Escort: Suzy Favor Hamilton Admits She Worked As Vegas Prostitute
lollipopspot Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Anyway the question is moot; there is nothing on earth worse than an affair. Surely you don't believe that... 1
almond Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Surely you don't believe that... Beat me to it.
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 It's like someone who said they respected Beyoncé more than anyone else in the world... And some wit replied..."Really? More than Mother Teresa?"
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 OFF_TOPIC POST: Aren't the tenets the same? Tenets!! TEN-ETS! Tenets tenets tenets!! Thank you! Well done! I think I love you!! Aaaah! Happy TM!! Tenets.... so simple really! Te-Nets.... TEN-ETS......tenets..... OK, I'm done. Back to topic. 1
janedoe67 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Quote: Originally Posted by janedoe67 View Post Anyway the question is moot; there is nothing on earth worse than an affair. Surely you don't believe that... It doesn't matter what I think. In fact nothing about me matters. That is the point. Just like this hooker woman. She may as well just.....poof! Once you have cheated you cease to exist in all the ways that count. And it doesn't matter what you do to try to repair.
lollipopspot Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Once you have cheated you cease to exist in all the ways that count. And it doesn't matter what you do to try to repair. Can you expand on that? Cease to exist in all ways that count in the marriage? For family life? In life?
CaliGuy Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Akula, I know English is not your mother tongue, so please know, I'm trying to help, here.... Possibly WORSE THAN an affair... There is a similar thread running where a husband discovered, due to being told by a friend, that his wife had briefly participated in porn films, 2 years before he met her. She engaged in this behaviour out of desperation for money, and her life had been at a low point, then. However, this scenario is entirely different, because her reasons are boredom, and she is married already. her decision is deliberate and deceitful. This, to me, would in all probability be a deal-breaker for the husband. And I could fully see why. Not to mention all the potential diseases she is exposing her husband to. I'd kick her arse to the kerb, knowwutImean?!
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