jaguar Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Ok, this thread is about dating anyway even if it pertains to me and my friend. Well anyway both me and my friend are new to Europe. We met in Europe, so it is not like we are close friends for a long time or anything. Both of us are virgins. We used to talk about girls and all that in the beginning. But now after seeing so many guys having fun with girls and so on, I think jealousy has taken root in both of us. Nowadays when I speak about girls to him, he changes the subject or bluntly interrupts saying something like "I don't want to hear about it". The funny thing is he still talks about girls to other people. But when it comes to me, he doesn't want to talk about it. It's like both of us are absolutely desperate and would be absolutely devastated if the other one loses his virginity:D. The situation has become so bad that even nudity on internet is now off limits. The other day, I was just telling him that I talked to one girl but he seemed totally disinterested in it. I like him but I can only think that both of us need to lose our virginities in order to save the friendship:D. And this is putting even more intense pressure on me. Any ways to resolve the situation?
Elias33 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I think you and your friend are incompatible when it comes to dealing with this. You look for solutions while he is giving up. Going as far as a simultaneous first experience is simply nonsensical. I think it's not a friendship issue between to two of you. I think the issue lies more with your friend and how he deals with life. Don't seek to enable this type of behavior and instead, make your own path in life. If he chooses to make this a big deal, and hide from it, let that be his choice. If you actively talk to a girl trying to get with her, a real friend would be happy for you. Loosing your virginity is a choice you make for yourself, and shouldn't include a pact you make with others.
Author jaguar Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 I like him and I think he is a good person. But sometimes he behaves like this. I wish we both lose our virginity because then there is no space for jealousy and we can find peace. He doesn't even like when I talk about girls and that is disappointing since who can I talk to? I am new in this country and I know only him now.
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