hea Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Not that he wants one. He was two years younger then me, he was 19 when we meet and I was 21. We dated for two years, and I thought we actually had something, we had so much fun together, never argued, and from my point of view he was the one. We even were talking about starting to save for a house together. He got a new job, and there was a girl who worked there with him. Two months after she started he split up with me. I was in turmoil, I did not see it coming at all, I literally woke up one morning and he said he didn't want to be with me, so we split. Two weeks he dated this other girl. Heartbroken is not the word, I was devastated. Even though, to this day I do not think he cheated, but he was texting her whilst we were together. Anyway I had no contact with him then for a year. It was a total blow, but I pulled myself together and got on with my life. I dated but never met anyone to take his place. Anyway after this year of no contact he added me on fb and I sent him a message, we got talking asked how each other was etc. I found myself being drawn in again so I said goodbye and left it at that. Two weeks later on Christmas day, he messaged me and declared that he still loved me and could never get me out of his mind. He said he didn't love her and never did, we were talking about commitment and he got scared and went for the first girl around him. He always had an issue with the fact he hadn't been single. I told him he needed to sort things out with his gf first before we talk because it wasn't fair (even though I owed her nothing, I wasn't being one of them). Anyway we met up and we got back together, it was a dream come true for me, when does this ever happen? NEVER! But it didn't last. He pushed for us to get back together and when I did, the first month was great and then after that it all went a bit sour. He didn't put any effort in, didn't tell his friends about us until I told him too. We had been together a month and it was our first valentines together and he said ill see you the day before valentines because im going to the pub with my mates on that day. I should have known then. One thing after another, it got to the point where id hold his hand and he'd drop it. He would never kiss me, or try it on in the bedroom. Even when I booked a night away he didn't even try it on. It was always me. After 10 months of giving 100% and getting 5% back I had had enough and confronted him. He said he thinks were just friends. So he dumped me again. Its been five months since we split and I must say this time its a lot easier, I haven't cried half as much. He texted me at least once a week after we split. And told me he loved me, missed me, didn't understand why we split, or why we didn't work, I asked about his job as he was opening a new shop and he turned around and said 'I don't like talking to you about this as you were going to be a part of it'. I wanted a proper answer as he was telling me everything that you'd say if I was the one who didn't want to be with him. Eventually he said he no longer fancied me. I had been on a date with someone else so I told him this, because I wanted to hurt him. (Now I regret it. I've lost him.) After I told him this, he said the next day, 'sorry about last night, I waffled because it finally dawned on me were not getting back together'. WHAT?! I MEAN SERIOUSLY?! its like I split with him. If he did not fancy me why would he think there was a possibility? That was three weeks ago, I have heard from him a lot less now. In fact its been two weeks without a text, and from going from him texting me, once a week to nothing is torture. I wish I knew what was going on in his head, if he no longer fancies me then why tell me all the other stuff? Im no longer dating the other guy and I don't think he knows this. I want him back but part of me thinks, it didn't work out the second time why would it the third? I guess the ball is in his court. Only time will tell. But what if I've blown it?
kjackson1 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 He's immature and is clearly playing with your heart. Third times a charm doesn't apply to this situation.
Hoaks Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I think he feels comfortable knowing your always there. If things don't work out with someone else or it's rocky he can always come back talking to you. He thinks your his safety net. He's being very selfish, like my ex. She came back talking to me after 6 months needing support. Flirted, sucked me in very quickly to turn around and go cold. It's selfish, they like to know they can get u back at the drop of a hat then....see ya
Cakess Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I agree. You're being played, and you don't deserve it. Ignore this offer and move on in your life for better things.
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