Theblondieb Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 So I recently joined Tinder. At first I started just to be nosy but then it got quite addictive and it was fun getting matches and chatting to new people. I started talking to this guy called M who was 29, lived in my area and was quite hot. We got on really well and he suggested we move over to Whatsapp to make things easier so I agreed. I had nothing to loose and if I didn't like him I could always delete his number. Then he suggested we Snapchat, as he has a bit of a Snapchat obsession. I said I didn't use it too much but added him anyways. So for the past couple of days we've been snapchatting and whatsapping and it's been going well. Then on Friday he got a bit freaked out. His 30th birthday was looming and got quite down about it. He asked me my age (although my age was very clear tinder when he swiped right) and I answered I was a little younger. I was 22. Then it seemed he had a massive freak out saying he can't chat up 22 year olds, does this call him a perve and so on, but still in a kind of jokey way. I said we hadn't broken the law as we were just chatting, to which he replied 'Isn't this grooming?' I tried to cheer him up and told him not to turn in a to grumpy old man at 30 and the conversation carried on quite light-heartedly. The next night (Friday) we spoke again all evening long and in the conversation he asked if I had any free time this weekend. And I truthfully said I didn't. Then on Saturday we were Snapchatting back and forth all day but didn't hear from him at all on whatsapp on Saturday or Sunday. So I decided to send him a funny whatsapp on Sunday hoping for him to initiate conversation on whatsapp, but he opened it and never replied. I never suggested that I wanted a relationship, I never said he was old, I never said he was going to be the love of my life (to be honest, I'm more curious, than anything as I've never been with a 30 year old before). What did I do wrong? Please help.
Babolat Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Too many "apps" here; maybe just meet? Just sayin.....
PegNosePete Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Yeah, doesn't your phone make, you know, phone calls?
MidwestUSA Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 You told him (truthfully?) that you didn't have any free time that weekend. But You talked all Friday evening, all day Saturday, and tried to initiate talk on Sunday. It sounds like he actually wanted to meet and take you out. You're giving him the impression you're not interested in anything more than a chat buddy. 2
Author Theblondieb Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 I was supposed to be going out of town, but Friday night we had a massive downpoor and everything got flooded so I was stuck at home Friday evening. I left early Saturday morning to go out of town. We never actually just spoke, just exchnaged a couple of pictures on Snapchat. Then Sunday evening when I got back, I Snapchatted him, hoping to have a chat, but nothing.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Perfect example on how young people are obsessed with apps but never make a real connection. I agree with MidwestUSA. He wanted to meet in person (gasp, is there an app for that?) but since you said you didn't have time, he took it as you're not interested. He's slowly going to fade away from you. In the future, just be bit more receptive to meeting in person if you really want to have a date. I'm sure there is an app somewhere for reminding you that. 1
Author Theblondieb Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 Okay, I'm sorry I didn't seem to eager to meet up with the guy as I met him over an app. Can a girl not try to get to know a stranger a little bit more before meeting him? I appreciate your honesty, but is there any way to salvage the situation?
MidwestUSA Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Okay, I'm sorry I didn't seem to eager to meet up with the guy as I met him over an app. Can a girl not try to get to know a stranger a little bit more before meeting him? I appreciate your honesty, but is there any way to salvage the situation? I guess what I would do is simply wait until I see him active on one of these apps and try to catch his interest again. Maybe he wasn't sure how to take your Whassup thing on Sunday. Maybe he got busy (watching football?) or didn't feel obligated to reply. Anyway, that's what I'd do. Hang out and see. Good luck! 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Okay, I'm sorry I didn't seem to eager to meet up with the guy as I met him over an app. Can a girl not try to get to know a stranger a little bit more before meeting him? I appreciate your honesty, but is there any way to salvage the situation? He also knows you are not eager to meet up with him. Hence why he doesn't feel strongly on responding to you. The other problem is, you keep chatting with him via these apps, but no where did you offer to reschedule or offer another time slot to meet up. If you want to salvage it, message him by asking him when is he available to meet. Flip the table a little. Also, I hope you do know that you can get to know him just by simple going on a date with him and talking in person. 2
NYC-BigKat Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 He also knows you are not eager to meet up with him. Hence why he doesn't feel strongly on responding to you. The other problem is, you keep chatting with him via these apps, but no where did you offer to reschedule or offer another time slot to meet up. If you want to salvage it, message him by asking him when is he available to meet. Flip the table a little. Also, I hope you do know that you can get to know him just by simple going on a date with him and talking in person. That's true. He's lucky to have a girl like u liking him so much. I wish I had a girl that wanted to meet me. I think u need to be honest to him now.
jba10582 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 If he did get the impression that you didn't want to meet and you want to salvage the situation then ask him to meet...if he doesn't respond or doesn't want to move on. If you don't want to do this, then move on.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I'm texting him now. Damn it woman! Use the phone, leave a flirty voicemail. Let him hear your voice.
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