Addictive Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Hey guys, I will not go into details about the realtioship as it finished an year ago. Me and my Ex work abroad in the same company and she is leaving. It has been one year since she borke up with me and got a new boyfriend (month after we split). The thing is I am still not over her and care about her and would like to say bye. We have been in that place for 5 years (2,5 in a realtionship). Somehow i still feel emotionally attached to her. I know it is my issue and i have to sort it out but the fact is i still miss her. I tried calling her three times throughout this year to see how is she doing but she said she won't meet me as there is nothing common between us anymore and it wouldn't be fair to her boyfriend. So , Is there anyone who went through a similar situation or have any advice in the matter? Thank you.
kjackson1 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 You have tried contacting here multiple times to no avail. Save yourself the pain and do not go tell her goodbye. She moved on and is with someone else now. I know you are acting off emotions but what good is seeing her going to do for you? It's time you let this one go completely.
mantlefan Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 It sounds like you want to be over her. That's good. It's also good that you admit that you still miss her, if that's how you really feel. Think of it this way. You know that she should no longer be a part of your life. You NOT saying bye to her will make this separation more real for you, and once it becomes more real to you, you are on your way to really being over her. She should not be a part of your life, so use this opportunity to confirm that.
David87 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Hey guys, I will not go into details about the realtioship as it finished an year ago. Me and my Ex work abroad in the same company and she is leaving. It has been one year since she borke up with me and got a new boyfriend (month after we split). The thing is I am still not over her and care about her and would like to say bye. We have been in that place for 5 years (2,5 in a realtionship). Somehow i still feel emotionally attached to her. I know it is my issue and i have to sort it out but the fact is i still miss her. I tried calling her three times throughout this year to see how is she doing but she said she won't meet me as there is nothing common between us anymore and it wouldn't be fair to her boyfriend. So , Is there anyone who went through a similar situation or have any advice in the matter? Thank you. Don't contact her, don't meet her to say good bye, like she said it's not fair to her boyfriend. Life goes on, I know its hard but you have to let this one go. As I red your story I can tell that you still love her....don't you want her to be happy? Respect her decision.
True Gent Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 My ex is leaving the UK to go to America for 4 months. I have had the same thoughts as you about wanting to see her off but, I've come to the conclusion that she doesn't give a rats ass about me so why should I about her? You really don't need to be saying goodbye to her or even giving her a second thought buddy.
WYSWYG Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I say DON'T do it.. We broke up a week before my ex left for a 3-week overseas trip back home. I promised to drive her to the airport but retracted that offer after thinking it over. Saying goodbye to anyone leaving is sad as it is. You miss her, you're still attached and she doesn't wanna meet w/ you. Trust me, it will hurt even more. Do you really wanna feel more pain and antagonize yourself further? Let it go and you will be doing yourself a big favor.
julzfromsa Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 DO NOT SAY GOODBYE Thats was done a long time ago.. This is a good thing and i feel you will heal better that she is away.. There is no need to say goodbye. Neither will she care or appreciate it. It will cause you more pain.. Time is for you now.. I say stuff her, forget her, move on and let her go. Be strong mate 1
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